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As a man that was totally committed to being a good father and role model for his daughters, the actions of his ex-girlfriend would hurt him to the core, because she would pull for anything and everything to get the relationship back. Of course, the most popular threat that some woman use is the "I'm going to take your children away from you and you will never see them again," warning. This is totally unnecesary and un-called for if a man is actually "doing" what he is supposed to do as a father. Another thing that I didn't quite understand is how can a woman threaten to have a court order a man to pay child support, when he is "already" supporting his child emotionally and financially? If he is doing what he is supposed to do, then why do we have to get nasty and brutal about it? I don't have any children as of yet, so some may feel I don't have much weight to talk, but my concern is for all of our children, especially those in single parent homes. We should not use our children as bargaining tools. And please, please don't take a good, decent parent away from a child just because the you want the parent back in your romantic life. This ultimately hurts our children and that's very disheartening. <BR/><BR/>Kei<BR/>http://therevealedoasis.blogspot.comAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17646926.post-22419822289005333192008-07-15T21:17:00.000-04:002008-07-15T21:17:00.000-04:00THE FLESH IS SINFUL...AND THERE IS NONE RIGHTEOUS....THE FLESH IS SINFUL...AND THERE IS NONE RIGHTEOUS...NO, NOT ONE. SO LONG AS THERE IS SOMEONE WHO IS NOT MOVING WITH THE LOVE OF GOD IN THEIR LIVES...THEY ARE CAPABLE OF ALL EVIL. <BR/><BR/>p.s. your blogs are so insightful...i really didn't want to respond for fear of sounding inadequate. This is the first...I'll be back...each time, added more and more flair ;-)Melissa Su-Neeta Elkéhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11887589407736122737noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17646926.post-25356844074844424872008-07-15T00:19:00.000-04:002008-07-15T00:19:00.000-04:00In situations in which a relationship between pare...In situations in which a relationship between parents has gone awry, the children often become pawns. I was a "pawn" for my father early on and from what I understand, it was a horrible time for my mother as he played Stratego or some crap with me.<BR/><BR/>I feel I'm much better off for having been sheltered from my father after the situation cooled off. He's done nothing for me; he hasn't really tried. <BR/> <BR/>It seems that it's usually the man who engages in these antics, but I suppose women use children in this way as well. It's just much less talked about...like, I don't know, female rapists.<BR/><BR/>What I do know for sure is that these situations are not about the children or love or anything like it. It's about the failed relationship and getting back at each other, which in twisted minds, takes precedence over the welfare of a child.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17646926.post-28823012373907784522008-07-14T14:59:00.000-04:002008-07-14T14:59:00.000-04:00It's a shame that some women or even men for that ...It's a shame that some women or even men for that matter use a child as a weapon to hurt the partner they've been hurt by. A lot of women are hurt when the father doesnt want to be in her life, but exclusively the childs life. Therefore the mother uses the child as a bait. If you dont want me, you cant have the child either. Not being able to seperate the needs of her child from her own hurt emotions. very sad.Marleisse Averyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06322057114260215063noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17646926.post-38732247855270254052008-07-14T11:12:00.000-04:002008-07-14T11:12:00.000-04:00It has been suggested that lady Macbeth was actual...It has been suggested that lady Macbeth was actually a very weak character, & the speech she gives is actually a prayer that she become as strong as she needed to follow her husband's ambitions. This theory is bolstered in the text where she becomes mad & Macbeth does not. If you re-read her character w/this in mind, it becomes an even harsher/deeper play!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17646926.post-38957988752069738472008-07-14T10:55:00.000-04:002008-07-14T10:55:00.000-04:00People who scar children in order to make themselv...People who scar children in order to make themselves feel better are scarred themselves. They are probably repeating a vicious cycle.HeyShae!https://www.blogger.com/profile/16137710283277856211noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17646926.post-78261052600642699892008-07-14T10:17:00.000-04:002008-07-14T10:17:00.000-04:00sista gp i Understand and know what u are going th...sista gp <BR/>i Understand and know what u are going through and it was hard and I wil continue to be hard<BR/> <BR/> <BR/>Keli<BR/>Strange thing is I have always thought women were much stronger than men – physicality aside<BR/>And violence is never needed<BR/><BR/>Ieisha <BR/>Thank you<BR/><BR/> <BR/> <BR/>4GOTTEN1 <BR/>Well as it has been pointed out men are not immune from this. I have never heard a man say such.<BR/><BR/>BeKinky_Paula <BR/>U were blessed, I tell my kids such repeatedly through the day. And u were not all over the place<BR/><BR/>Aunt Jackie <BR/>Not a biological father but I had a step father. From about 8 up. So I did see that defined roll. Not to mention my uncle was the man of my house growing up before then and assumed that role after my grand father died. I only knew him for the first 3 yrs of my life but he was in the house too.<BR/><BR/>I don’t belive in babby momma or babby daddy. I will say childs mother or childs father. And u have never seen me use such – it implies disdain and lack of respect for the role to me and reduces it to surrogate.<BR/><BR/>Lex <BR/>Well said and wow.<BR/><BR/>The Jaded NYer <BR/>That’s good, but having one showed u what not to select meaning it helped u DEFINE expectations for the role. Which to me is the same thing<BR/><BR/>JesseTheCat <BR/>Thank u sister and do return and yep, the real world aint idea or a fairy tail but a lot of folks think so<BR/><BR/>LovexHate <BR/>I agree the child needs should be 1st as allll else agree, unless man is saying he is the devil.<BR/><BR/>Miriam <BR/>Thanks how is life in Israel?<BR/><BR/>2sweetnsaxy <BR/>That is a great question, unless u look at we insteasd of I or me as I do. Family is a unit not a group of separate individuals isolated<BR/><BR/>C <BR/>OK, it was just an opinion. For I have said the same about men, that grow up wanting to be thugs and gangsters.<BR/>This is so true<BR/><I> you can't regulate the heart/emotions w/ law. </I><BR/>I think what u said was rather objective, we all have the ability to learn and see things differently.<BR/><BR/>Blah Blah Blah <BR/>Nope, my crime would be that she feels maybe powerless, and finds power maybe in hurting me – never asked, just the psychologisit in me. I know when ignore such and don’t get mad, it upsets her, that’s why I say the above<BR/><BR/>mocha <BR/>I agree<BR/><BR/>Big Cheekz <BR/><B>”I only heard negative things about him while I was growing up. After I became an adult, I decided to try & find him. He died two weeks after I found out where he was & I never got to see him. So even as an adult, I never got to know him for myself. I envy my children because they have something I didn't while growing up. I would never want them to feel the way I did - like a part of me was missing. ………WOW</B> Thanks for sharing wish I could say more<BR/><BR/>msladydeborah <BR/>ApplauseAll-Mi-T [Thought Crime] Rawdawgbuffalohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08843040863123899426noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17646926.post-44279214230158108902008-07-14T00:03:00.000-04:002008-07-14T00:03:00.000-04:00There are people who do not know how to fight.They...There are people who do not know how to fight.<BR/><BR/>They use whatever weapon is available. <BR/><BR/>I am not for using a child as a pawn period. I had a great living example~my mother.<BR/><BR/>My parents divorced when I was two. My dad re-married and moved to another city.<BR/><BR/>My mother never spoke ill of my dad in my presence. Nor did my grandparents. Whenever my dad came in town, there was no problem with him seeing me.<BR/><BR/>When I divorced, my ex was never denied access to our children. Even when he was not about the right thing.<BR/><BR/>That was really directed at me personally. So when we would have at..it was on that level.<BR/><BR/>You were smart by signing papers. That gave you the proper inroad in your situation. There is a portion of the society that seems to forget, we still do legal business on paper and in B&W. But it is obvious that you loved your child enough to handle your business.<BR/><BR/>Loving folks is one of those things in life that is not easy. When it goes wrong~it hurts. A lot of emphasis gets placed on getting even for the personal pain. But not enough emphasis is placed on healing.msladyDeborahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17593695415626632490noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17646926.post-21982929566738130902008-07-13T22:03:00.000-04:002008-07-13T22:03:00.000-04:00I am a woman that grew up w/out a father and if so...I am a woman that grew up w/out a father and if something happend to my marriage - I would never deny my children the opportunity to still spend time w/their dad. I turned out ok but I did have issues because of my father not being around. Not only was he not in my life, but I only heard negative things about him while I was growing up. After I became an adult, I decided to try & find him. He died two weeks after I found out where he was & I never got to see him. So even as an adult, I never got to know him for myself. I envy my children because they have something I didn't while growing up. I would never want them to feel the way I did - like a part of me was missing. It saddens me that <I>some</I> women carry on this way, but lets not forget that some men will bash their "baby mamas" too, so the ignorance can go both ways. Parents that act like this don't realize what they are doing to their children. They don't get it until the child is grown & angry & the damage has been done.Miz Cheekzhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06135038445546447479noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17646926.post-32215846285511764722008-07-13T18:35:00.000-04:002008-07-13T18:35:00.000-04:00I think in most cases the child is the one that hu...I think in most cases the child is the one that hurts the most...Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17646926.post-75500637245745660222008-07-13T16:16:00.000-04:002008-07-13T16:16:00.000-04:00Why and how come people do the things they do...is...Why and how come people do the things they do...is not something that can be supposed about...at least something I can't...'cause I don't get it.<BR/>All of them are case by case situations...I guess. Have you asked your chick why she does the things she does? <BR/>And if we were reading her story, what would be your crime?<BR/><BR/>I can't fathom what kind of "parent" uses their child as bate or ransom... it's a bitch ass move on her and his part...no matter how you look at it.Blah Blah Blahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07551608249012287650noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17646926.post-38829574687994799272008-07-13T12:24:00.000-04:002008-07-13T12:24:00.000-04:00I been reading your blog for a minute and you appe...I been reading your blog for a minute and you appear to have more eagle-like qualities than buzzard so please, please, please turn the sexism down a notch and stop pickin the carcass of that dead rhetoric about women w/out fathers not needing men,& strip clubs & rappers & poles & cash& such *sigh* you grew up w/o a father and you managed to stay out of prison/off the corner etc. & you actively love your babies;give women the same benefit of the doubt, damn! your mom obviously did what you seem to think many women can't/won't do though you have PROOF to the contrary.<BR/>are there women who do what you wrote about? yep both single & married and it's not just women. since you were speaking of yourself, I don't think there's a lot of mental stability with the woman in question based on what you've written in the past. but we've only gotten your side.yep some people do find it hard to separate personal feelings from what's best for the child and no matter how many laws we have in place, you can't regulate the heart/emotions w/ law. physical abuse is a no brainer, to keep the child away. most other things you have to just suck it up and let the child form their own opinions & enjoy the love of all who are willing to love them, dad & his family etc cause children have a right to love their parents, flaws & all. Having a daughter has made you more concerned about women's issues but will it ever make you thoroughly explore sexism from a woman's point of view & not the point of view you've decided that she 'should' have? IMO single moms & dads wearing them 'martyr' shoes brings out the worst in the other parent. context is hard to gage on the computer screen so understand that my questions, criticisms are RESPECTFUL albeit passionate debate & not judgement of you.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17646926.post-41265812609686521502008-07-13T12:19:00.000-04:002008-07-13T12:19:00.000-04:00I believe it has everything to do with being utter...I believe it has everything to do with being utterly and completely selfish, not being able to step out of the picture to put someone else first, not even their own child. I've never understood using a child as a tool to get back at someone. That is someone stuck on "me".<BR/><BR/>How can you have any kind of successful relationship with anyone if you can't step outside of the "me" box?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17646926.post-60988892064390607702008-07-13T10:27:00.000-04:002008-07-13T10:27:00.000-04:00Hi Torrence,it was long over due but, just wanted ...Hi Torrence,<BR/><BR/>it was long over due but, just wanted you to know you're on my blog roll.Miriamhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06067406973014144499noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17646926.post-43676995336545006032008-07-13T10:10:00.000-04:002008-07-13T10:10:00.000-04:00I think it's disgusting when parents do things lik...I think it's disgusting when parents do things like that because at the end of the day not only are they punishing their ex-partner but their own child as well! I can't understand how any parent in their right mind would even consider doing this as it clearly shows that they shouldn't even have children. It's just immature and evil to manipulate your own flesh and blood in such a way. The child's needs should come first above everything else.<BR/><BR/>Thanx for tipping me on to this blog, I really like it.LovexHatehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05765530852332868773noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17646926.post-55213824541219108232008-07-13T03:42:00.000-04:002008-07-13T03:42:00.000-04:00Hello...well,in an ideal world eveyone would put t...Hello...well,in an ideal world eveyone would put their love for their children above all the petty fighting and squabbling with their ex partners.In my opinion,putting ones child above ALL else should be the normal thing for any parent! <BR/><BR/>However,we sure do not live in any sort of ideal world and though I have never had experience in what you have written about,I have seen it happening time and time again with couples who have split up.<BR/><BR/>To me its tragic that they are so filled with anger at each other that the child is often used as a pawn.I would never keep my child away from her father...unless he were a negative influence, such regularly using drugs and drinking and being irresponsible when taking care of her.Thankfully,her father is NOT like that...but if he were I would make sure he had NO access to her until he cleaned up his act.<BR/><BR/>My first priority wont be pettiness,it will simply be to protect the child .And I would expect the same treatment from him if I were behaving in a manner that was not good for my child.<BR/><BR/>Its a pity that so many parents are emotionally immature..so many aspects and experiences go into making them what they are..and using the kids as pawns is often the ONLY control they have left.When they do mature a bit,they may see all the mistakes they made...but by that time,the poor child is already affected and its often too late!<BR/>Wonderful and insightful post, you have a great talent with words...and are one Rockin' Blogger..keep it up :)Trixhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06536462575625902264noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17646926.post-9076974099219912892008-07-13T02:33:00.000-04:002008-07-13T02:33:00.000-04:00I also feel that women that do not "have such in t...I also feel that women that do not "have such in the home do not see the importance of a man in the lives of children and may even be the type to say they don’t need a man." <BR/><BR/>I don't agree with that statement... the fact that my dad was such an ASS and did not play an active role in my life made me realize just the opposite.The Jaded NYerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12984061987021416142noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17646926.post-56309421588451593722008-07-13T01:42:00.000-04:002008-07-13T01:42:00.000-04:00But I also feel that women who grow up in homes wi...<I>But I also feel that women who grow up in homes with the father present would not do such, for they would have learned the value and love that a father or any parent would give under optimal circumstance.</I><BR/><BR/>I think that statement speaks volumes. I am not a mother, but I am a woman who is still her daddy's little girl. I was raised with the unconditional love of a father in a 2 parent household. As a girl, my father was the strongest, bravest, most powerful person in the world who had all the answers and everything I needed to feel secure. As a woman, I see his weaknesses, but that insight does not diminish what I perceived through a girls eyes. I learned what true love felt like. I learned what to hope for. I learned what was good and right and acceptable. <BR/><BR/>I can never imagine a woman who grew up with that kind of love intentionally depriving her own child(ren) of the same -- for any reason. Certainly not to spite a man.<BR/><BR/>I had a horrible marriage. We didn't have children. But when it ended it ended. We weren't good for each other so we made a clean break and went our separate ways. Though I was mistreated in many ways in that relationship, there's nothing to avenge. It's over. I've moved on and so has he. We are cordial now and even have a few pleasant moments once in a blue moon -- our relationship just didn't work. I don't know why couples can't just walk away without leaving carnage in the wake of a failed relationship.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17646926.post-11950830356884349382008-07-13T01:28:00.000-04:002008-07-13T01:28:00.000-04:00If I recall correctly you were raised by your moth...If I recall correctly you were raised by your mother and Grandmother..do you think that as a male/father that has had an affect on your point of view?<BR/><BR/>I tend to agree with bell hooks that women in toxic relationships are better served as single parents away from the toxicity than to partake in an abusive relationship.<BR/><BR/>When children see their mother's abused, verbally and/or physically it creates a myriad of social and emotional problems, and if the best resolve for the woman if to take her child and rebuild a healthy life...Mamma's Baby's, Daddy's Maybe.<BR/><BR/>If God had wanted it otherwise men would get pregnant and have periods and all the other good stuff that comes along with child birth. <BR/><BR/>Now granted I believe in family, and family to me means a mother and father working together, but life ain't always cut and dry..and although it's happened, I haven't heard many stories about abused men, so I can only use women as context.A.u.n.t. Jackiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06342245586271716564noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17646926.post-75543516511573917842008-07-13T01:17:00.000-04:002008-07-13T01:17:00.000-04:00This is gonna be all over the place but...I think ...This is gonna be all over the place but...I think in general most parents are selfish. I seriously believe that MOST parents have that "I brought you into this world, I can take you out" type of attitude, as if you owe them something for bringing you into this world. When no child is ASKED to be here. Most parents don't think about how the child's life could POSSIBLY be BEFORE they made the child and most parents don't try to make the best life possible for the child. Beyond material things. My father was a crackhead (Im not sensitive, its okay for people to know LOL) all my life. My mother still allowed him to see us when he popped back up whenever he felt like it. My mom still allowed him to see us time after time he'd broke promises and hurt us. My mom still allowed him to see us after he'd kidnapped us and held us hostage. She still allowed us to maintain a relationship with his family. The only reason I can see woman should be holding a child from their father is if there would be any harm done. Im still grateful for my mother because she allowed me to see what everything was with him. I never have to wonder. But yes, most parents say they love their kids because they are their children and they are supposed to. (My father told me he loved me ALL the time and Ive got some horrible stories) Especially if you are a mother. If you dont say its the best thing that happened to you in the world people will think you are crazy. When being honest prob would benefit the child more. Most kids arent planned. Therefore the best interest of the child is USUALLY not considered. I think its horrible for a woman to do that, considering the high number of fathers that don't care at all and wouldnt want real relationships with their children. To deprive a child of that that doesnt HAVE to go through it is cruel and you can't really love your children to do that. And even if you have grown up without a father and you turned out perfectly fine it seems odd. I don't think theres any woman that believes that they havent missed SOMETHING, even if they cant name exactly what that is. Additionally, I believe that the one thing that women are taught from birth (even if they are without fathers) that their ultimate goal in life is to "get and KEEP a man". Sometimes mothers turn bitter towards the children because they've painted a fairytale life with a man that they arent necessarily meant to be with. When their relationship with the man crumbles their relationships with their kids suffer if not completely crumble. It seems to me that kids are like a supplement and the man is the ultimate accomplishment...ESPECIALLY if he married you. LOL I dont think its really purposely hurting the child either. Most of these women are so busy trying to pay the man back that they don't see how they are affecting that child because that was not their initial focus from the time they got pregnant....Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17646926.post-76357103611753553012008-07-12T23:17:00.000-04:002008-07-12T23:17:00.000-04:00I never understood using children as a pawn in rel...I never understood using children as a pawn in relationships or post relationships to do or get what a person wants especially with women. Childrean are innocent and should be protected so why subject them to a bunch of bullshit that have nothing to deal with I just can't fathom why. I especially don't understand why women have babies on purpose to try and salvage a broken relationship. Some even scheme and plot to get pregnant by some men and when it doesn't work out they turn on the man and the child.<BR/>My father wasn't a really good father in fact he was a horrible father in my opinion. My mother still made sure we knew exactly who he by letting us spend time with him. We formed our own opinios about our father. She never in my entire life spoke ill of him. She definetly wasn't his biggest fan but she never let us know that. She kept their problems just that their problems they never became our problems. My father loved us and although he wasn't a good father he was a very decent man. Just something to think about.4GOTTEN1https://www.blogger.com/profile/06995086292486700473noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17646926.post-20347433312503727152008-07-12T22:54:00.000-04:002008-07-12T22:54:00.000-04:00Of course you can add me to your roll. I subscribe...Of course you can add me to your roll. I subscribe to you thru Google Reader.<BR/><BR/>On to the topic at hand. I'll try and keep this short and not blog in your comments section but I'll say this: women who use their children as pawns are playing a losing game. Those women are immature, selfish and have no maternal instincts. Those women live up to the name "baby mama" and do nothing but perpetuate the stereotype of being a gold-digger and can only see dollar signs in their children instead of their potential.<BR/><BR/>I agree that their outlook is skewed depending on how they grew up. Having or not having a father definitely gives women a different view on things. But that's no excuse to continue acting like a child.<BR/><BR/>Great post, RDB.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com