tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17646926.post8460425594479080147..comments2024-03-23T04:05:16.364-04:00Comments on Raw Dawg Buffalo: If they do nothing 4 u, u are worth nothing to themAll-Mi-T [Thought Crime] Rawdawgbuffalohttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08843040863123899426noreply@blogger.comBlogger38125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17646926.post-43408701616747731582008-02-29T19:15:00.000-05:002008-02-29T19:15:00.000-05:00the bear maiden - i do, and dont mind, without exp...the bear maiden - i do, and dont mind, without expectations, but i do know the difference between thoese who will be there when i need them and thoes who dont. You are so write, they dont deserve, but we with home traing are taught to give, i guess im like my granny<BR/><BR/>Babz - thanks, im on th cover of RSG the others, well ex aquaintances. Guess all know is love, cause i sure would have let Incogman know it then. and thanks hon for the suport, ill rpay u some how. enjoy<BR/><BR/>Marleaux - i see your heart in your words, guess there are two type of folks, human beings and thoes that be human<BR/><BR/>Artis in me - hanks for th drive by, and i agree 100 percent with u, thats all, i do s i want done to me, but i see when it is not returned, so i dont take the calls LOL...do come back maam<BR/><BR/>Prettyblack - u wild, that lst stanza was funny<BR/><BR/>samii - this y i aint got no woman to this day, outside of them being intimadeted and jealousy. I give and if i dont feel they will be ther for me, they cut and i get a new starting line up<BR/><BR/>miss e - i guess i embrace the one<BR/><BR/><BR/><BR/>Brittany_83 - u are a great persn and a humbled spiri s wellAll-Mi-T [Thought Crime] Rawdawgbuffalohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08843040863123899426noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17646926.post-71788486268545373572008-02-29T18:36:00.000-05:002008-02-29T18:36:00.000-05:00I always do for people and never really expect any...I always do for people and never really expect anything in return just because I know how some people are. At least I'm doing my part.Brittanyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09987772376013178316noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17646926.post-58926935482551847682008-02-29T17:00:00.000-05:002008-02-29T17:00:00.000-05:00I can't tell you how many times I've been surprise...I can't tell you how many times I've been surprised by the actions of my "friends" in the past after helping them tremendously, only to find out they wouldn't do the same for me. There has been one friend that has consistently proved herself as being a true friend, as I did her, and I have learned that she's the only one I need around for real. However, I've embraced the unfortunate situations I've encountered because it made me appreciate the great people in my life. Good post prof.miss. ehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12962141639417322094noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17646926.post-7732049069684256382008-02-28T23:30:00.000-05:002008-02-28T23:30:00.000-05:00This is why I have no true bff's to this day. I h...This is why I have no true bff's to this day. I have yet to find one that gives as much as she takes.Samii Styleshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08806033852015857093noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17646926.post-18543848347856441252008-02-28T14:50:00.000-05:002008-02-28T14:50:00.000-05:00Wow I used to have those kinds of people in my lif...Wow I used to have those kinds of people in my life but I have not to kindly gotten rid of them. When I was about 8 months pregnant I decided the people I wanted around my daughter were the ones I would keep in my life...All others got the phone call, some thought it was a game but soon realized I was serious. Some got mad...and muthafucka? My mad is way worst than your mad so get over it.<BR/><BR/>One friend I had since ninth grde still can't let go everytime she see's someone I know she tries to get my number...they know how that goes...so they can't be baited.<BR/><BR/>I feel like if I'm busting my ass at 35 sometimes taking my baby to class with me to finish my degree why should I give to somebody who isn't trying? Fuck that shit. Get yours...like TuPac said:<BR/><BR/>Make sure your eyes is on the meal ticket<BR/>Get your money motherfucker let's get rich and we'll kick it<BR/>All eyes on me!PrettyBlackhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10165266284046402228noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17646926.post-51267618517090011082008-02-28T13:12:00.000-05:002008-02-28T13:12:00.000-05:00I have heard from several elders, as you have...yo...I have heard from several elders, as you have...your word is all that you have. If that does not hold true, then there is not much else to trust that comes out of your mouth. <BR/><BR/>However, I have also learned that it is so much better to do unto others as you want done unto yourself, regardless of how they choose to conduct themselves. See...we are only responsible for self and no one else. <BR/><BR/>Now that is not to say that we are to be fools and let them walk all over us. It is to say that we are charged to find that right balance.<BR/><BR/>Be blessed and thanks for stopping by!The Artist In Mehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12842085236108762744noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17646926.post-54488289851639534452008-02-28T12:31:00.000-05:002008-02-28T12:31:00.000-05:00I had a friend who fit right into this post. Her ...I had a friend who fit right into this post. Her and her two babies lived with me a few years back. She barely paid rent, which was pennies considering that I lived in a two bedroom and she had her own bedroom, plus full access to any other room in the place. She used drugs in my home, which she was told was prohibited. It’s funny, that rule was supposed to benefit her kids, but she thought otherwise, because she would get high in her bedroom while they watched. Once she gave her kids away, I put her out. She was just released from prison and we reached out to her, but she doesn’t want anything to do with my best friend and me. I guess she think she’s too good for us now that she has a few strikes, lmao. I guess we’re better off though.Marleauxhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13704327925911836523noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17646926.post-33026130287683287892008-02-28T08:35:00.000-05:002008-02-28T08:35:00.000-05:00I do know we are all givers and takers. We shift ...I do know we are all givers and takers. We shift as we need to shift as the need arises. There is no great equalizer in the way that we give or take. For some taking is what they do and on surface that is all we see. But I believe there is more than the obvious. Am I my brothers' keeper...yes, indeed.<BR/><BR/>Value and worth can't be measured in money/gold/products. We are all valuable and worthy even the most wretched of us. It is not judgment that matters, for I too am judged. All I know is the love I take, is the Love I make. What I put into the universe comes back to me.<BR/><BR/>Ahh... I ordered your book of poetry and Butter Brown. I'll get to Rockstar, Stud, Gigolo...I promise!Babz Rawls Ivyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04059921674059371076noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17646926.post-88084199749530026082008-02-28T02:51:00.000-05:002008-02-28T02:51:00.000-05:00P.S. Even if they ARE family.P.S. Even if they ARE family.The Bear Maidenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08219416611385201896noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17646926.post-73344119391021072622008-02-28T02:49:00.000-05:002008-02-28T02:49:00.000-05:00This is what I learned. And just managed to put in...This is what I learned. And just managed to put into words this past year.<BR/><BR/>When you give... love, money, friendship, you should give without the expectation of giving back. If you think that it will cost you to give love, money or friendship... don't give it. Don't loan people money if you know you need it back on Tuesday. Don't love if you NEED someone to give it back to you. Don't be a friend if you need friendship back.<BR/><BR/>That's not to say you shouldn't give at all. You should. It's just that you should so so freely.<BR/><BR/>And by the same token, while you shouldn't expect anything back, it is the responsibility of the receiver to pay back. Or to pay it forward. To do otherwise is unforgivable.<BR/><BR/>And if you have given freely to someone, and you see that they consistently never pay back or pay forward, by all means... cut them the hell off.<BR/><BR/>Cuz there ARE "takers"... people who take kindness for a weakness, abuse love and gifts and miss the whole point. And they don't deserve anything.The Bear Maidenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08219416611385201896noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17646926.post-2541918258529909832008-02-28T01:09:00.000-05:002008-02-28T01:09:00.000-05:00MP! - im not the using type, unless its my mind u ...MP! - im not the using type, unless its my mind u know, reminds me of the slave master mentality, but i feel ya<BR/><BR/>Kelso - the stire, i love it<BR/><BR/><BR/>Miz - u know how i do. Thanks hon<BR/><BR/>Babz - i have a short story called Reciprocity in ROCKSTAR STUD GIGOLO - yep im the cover model lolAll-Mi-T [Thought Crime] Rawdawgbuffalohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08843040863123899426noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17646926.post-66226528656343893392008-02-27T21:32:00.000-05:002008-02-27T21:32:00.000-05:00The "takers and the tooken" as Walter Lee says. I'...The "takers and the tooken" as Walter Lee says. I'm not tryin to be either one...at least not that often. Keep ya head up pimpin. The golden rule truly is golden. It comes around eventually.<BR/><BR/>Friends are there to be used and to use. But it's gotta be more than that.mp1https://www.blogger.com/profile/01949949105710130657noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17646926.post-6238973785373430822008-02-27T20:32:00.000-05:002008-02-27T20:32:00.000-05:00Well, T, like "professor" said I, too, was lucky t...Well, T, like "professor" said I, too, was lucky to be blessed with a small family and a good one. Again, terrible betrayals in the bad old days but my immediate family: my folks, my son, my sister, I couldn't ask for better. And because we are such a small family, 2nd, 3rd, 4th cousins and all variety of aunts and uncles fill in nicely in two cities: Atlanta, GA and London, England. Really, to a person they are stand-up types. Very able, but always kind people. I have a 3rd cousin by marriage who was born to a Russian family in Harrisonburg, Virginia and while she looks Russian and has an ironic Russian way of interpreting things she has the STRONGEST small town Virginia accent I have ever heard. It is so thick if an actor used it the director would tell her to tone it down a little. <BR/><BR/>Abstractions, indeed.KELSO'S NUTShttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14636889771989672795noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17646926.post-20959609953737594862008-02-27T19:38:00.000-05:002008-02-27T19:38:00.000-05:00There is absolutely nothing wrong with being the m...There is absolutely nothing wrong with being the man/giver that you are...but at some point we all have to wake up and smell the roses and eradicate such folks from our lives...in many ways we are "enablers" to these type, as long as we allow them to use us...they will. Take care friend, you will get yours back 10-fold.Mizrepresenthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02992754393960138393noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17646926.post-51505782149365514172008-02-27T19:09:00.000-05:002008-02-27T19:09:00.000-05:00I do not know how to respond here. I do know ther...I do not know how to respond here. I do know there is only love or fear. What we do for others is what we do for ourselves. I personally cannot make another a beggar in my presence. And sometimes the answer is no, but not because I am tired or unwilling, but because I do not have it to give. If you give you do so because you are able to. Suspend judgement and allow love to reign. Am I suggesting that you make your self someone's personal atm machine NO. However I don't think this post is about that. I think your post is about reciprocity and not so much you inability to give. If their presence in your life brings you joy and happiness and love than you do accordingly what needs to be done. If you tire of their ways and they are no longer friends/lovers/family then you have to set them free. Set them free to do the necessary work to become spiritually amd fiscally sustaining unto themselves.<BR/><BR/>There, but for the grace of God go I.Babz Rawls Ivyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04059921674059371076noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17646926.post-59265463342341452752008-02-27T18:50:00.000-05:002008-02-27T18:50:00.000-05:00BuelahMan - lol, and on another note, i guess we r...BuelahMan - lol, and on another note, i guess we read the same shit too<BR/><BR/><BR/>True urban queen - that sounds like me too. I am independent. But some folks dont know what taking cre of themselves mean<BR/><BR/>Curious - feel ya, and i WRITE it off literally, and a the time I got a call from the impetus for this post. Be lucky to see him unless he wanted something, yep thats what im talking aboutAll-Mi-T [Thought Crime] Rawdawgbuffalohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08843040863123899426noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17646926.post-23433365715578596002008-02-27T18:32:00.000-05:002008-02-27T18:32:00.000-05:00I have a friend that I've known for 20 to 25 years...I have a friend that I've known for 20 to 25 years now. He's called me his best friend and I've always wondered what that meant.<BR/><BR/>Whenever I could, I have always been there for him. And whenever I have needed him I would be lucky if I saw him within 6 months. But that's the way that it is. Like most people, he can only be the person that he is, and once I recognized that, I realized that it was unfair for me to ask him to be anything else.<BR/><BR/>I can't expect people to act the way that I believe I would act or the way that I believe they should act. Instead I have learned to focus on whatever it was that I found attractive in them, that made me call them friend; good conversation, knowledge, direction or whatever. And for me, that's payment enough.<BR/><BR/>Dure, I have been burned by friends and family, but never so badly that I couldn't write it off as a learning experience. I have learned to come to grips that my values will not necessarily be the same as everyone elses, and that their values wont necessarily diminish me or mine.<BR/><BR/>I give and I take. It's all part of that big payoff called life. And I think that in the end that is all any of us can do anyway.Curioushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03784893681266233567noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17646926.post-51460279482762841982008-02-27T18:28:00.000-05:002008-02-27T18:28:00.000-05:00I am independent. I rely on no one but myself to p...I am independent. I rely on no one but myself to pay the bills and keep the house together. I don't ask nothing of no one. Yet, when friends and family ask, I try my best to help them out. Sadly, when I know I can't afford too (money) or am too tired (favors like babysitting). Sad thing is if I ask them for anything back, they can't (won't) give back. Once years ago I ask someone to watch my kids, they said they couldn't though, I watched theirs for a week. So, I never ask. Matter of fact, I have gotten me a life so that people can't call. <BR/>Now,that you have opened my eyes to how kind you are, and since you are such a good blog buddy can I get one hundred dollars?Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06452688501671751879noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17646926.post-88431836533026852132008-02-27T18:19:00.000-05:002008-02-27T18:19:00.000-05:00You could have been talking 'bout my two brothers,...You could have been talking 'bout my two brothers, 'cept they steal all my shit, too.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17646926.post-39030255513992001602008-02-27T18:07:00.000-05:002008-02-27T18:07:00.000-05:00jaded -u are right i do out my heart, but i dont t...jaded -u are right i do out my heart, but i dont take the calls because they only sk and take and never do and offer, they still have my love, just not my doing, maybe life or death, but hats about itAll-Mi-T [Thought Crime] Rawdawgbuffalohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08843040863123899426noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17646926.post-7376023567187671472008-02-27T18:06:00.000-05:002008-02-27T18:06:00.000-05:00Professor - yep, but it hard, in my case, when the...Professor - yep, but it hard, in my case, when they are family. You know. But it was the way i was raised. and my family is small too, but it dont change u can still have one<BR/><BR/>Cordieb - i try to live and lead by example, but like i said, it would be cool if it was some woman or one of my boys, no real blood involved with that.<BR/><BR/>Christopher - true, but family is forever, that makes it a little harder<BR/><BR/>Kelso - humans are abstract, to abstract, i just treat all the same, but have a specail standing for family members, make me feel like i aint their family at all<BR/><BR/>Blah - u the first cave woman i met lol, so it is the same with your family too, or is that different<BR/><BR/>Foscused purpose - y thak u, i am honored<BR/><BR/>D - i mossed u, where have u been, any way u kept it short LOL. and its hard not to engage folk who have been in your life all your life, u know. and it is that unconditional freedom, justice and equality. u said it well. Being just whould say she would get him when he slept , if u asked me<BR/><BR/>Tamara - im about to do the same, so u have a fmily member like i described, dang sad aint it<BR/><BR/>Bernice - i wouldnt be on the planet but would love to see a CC tv of the inhabitants LOL<BR/><BR/>Dead Muel - will do tonightAll-Mi-T [Thought Crime] Rawdawgbuffalohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08843040863123899426noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17646926.post-35260158615232685672008-02-27T18:04:00.000-05:002008-02-27T18:04:00.000-05:00Sometimes, though, when we offer help or advice, w...Sometimes, though, when we offer help or advice, we need to do it with no expectation of reciprocation. That way, we aren't hurt or disappointed when we get nothing in return. We have give of ourselves freely. You can take at least some solace in the fact that you did what a good person should do. Whether they do the same is on their souls in the end. <BR/><BR/>That doesn't mean, however, that you should answer their calls or offer help at all times. You're completely right about that. But sometimes giving is just that...giving without any expectation that you'll get something in return.<BR/><BR/>You give so much to even complete strangers here by way of inspiration, challenging thought etc. I appreciate that more than I can say.Jadedhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01429987593716194512noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17646926.post-23847093948902235882008-02-27T17:52:00.000-05:002008-02-27T17:52:00.000-05:00DUDE...that's why I don't have friends and God saw...DUDE...that's why I don't have friends and God saw fit to bless me with a SMALL family...<BR/>all jokes aside, I had to laugh cause you sound like me...I guess we just have to live to learn...<BR/>I treat each person the same until they hang themselves then they are cut off (but being the nosy person I am I leave a window open for them to redeem themselves...Im always interested to see if/how they do it)...I treat folks the way I want to be treated...I don't lend money, I give...if it comes back fine, if not it wasn't a large amount anyway...I give my time, when I have time...I will listen, and if you don't listen I give you less time the next time...<BR/>we all have friends who take way more than they give, but hey, sometimes they are just a balance to who we are...professorhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11899000155217475130noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17646926.post-91582258100426563012008-02-27T17:42:00.000-05:002008-02-27T17:42:00.000-05:00Torrence, you know that in the world, there are gi...Torrence, you know that in the world, there are givers and takers. You are blessed to be a giver. The attitude that you see in the friends you described is that of very sad, desperate people. Don't stop giving, even to those who never give. Don't let these people steal your joy. You might be the only living example these people see of genuine love in their lives. That love just might rub off onto them. It certainly will not hurt. Don't give what you do not want to give, and don't loan what you can not afford to give; But most importantly, don't withold that which you really want to give, for it will be returned to you in abundance. Peace, Light and Love to you and yours. . . CordieB.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-17646926.post-25270546287333851622008-02-27T17:37:00.000-05:002008-02-27T17:37:00.000-05:00Maya Angelou said, "When you know better, you do b...Maya Angelou said, "When you know better, you do better."<BR/><BR/>That gentle, simple phrase says so much about the human condition and our path to self-realization and personal growth.<BR/><BR/>I think and I believe this is why relationships we have in our youth don't usually endure.Christopherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15788931352232874850noreply@blogger.com