We often forget those things that are the most important in our lives, in particular things such as respect, value, appreciation and even love for those who have the most significant contribution in our lives. We men (and not to discriminate, women also) tend to take for granted, how our actions may impact others or even on the extreme end, show the opposite of respect, value, appreciation and even love.
There are some of us that do this on a regular basis. We go out with either our friends or others weekly (not a few times a month) on Sunday, Monday, Tuesday, Thursday and the weekend, and never realize that our actions tell an awful lot about ourselves and our true feelings to those we supposedly cherish the most. I’m not talking about grand parents or parents, but rather our wives, girl friends and children (husbands and men for you women). I would imagine for those of us men that do such, we are selfish and self absorbed and of the locution that there is something better out there, maybe for us. Alternatively, while the others in our life work hard to provide for their families, we remain at home, doing nothing productive, maybe sitting with the kids and maybe even living with our momma’s think we are entitled to be taken care of. . In fact, we may be so selfish, that we do not think it is important to call or check on them or the children while we are out or while they are at work.
But what makes us so certain that such is the case? What makes us so certain that while we are out philandering and inter-mingling that while we are out at all ours of the morning, that our partners, that we have selected to be in relationships with, are at home alone? Is it because we know they are with the children? Is it because we feel that we have no obligation to think of them first as we do ourselves? I do not know but I would like to proffer a warning that while we are out, they may be, and in all likelihood if the behavior is sever, are being entertained by another who has the same purported desire, and love for them that we proclaim, however, they are willing to show it by spending valuable time with out partners. Now I do not proclaim to say what it is that makes one seek the companionship and comfort of another, in particular if you place them first or equal to yourself. Sure, some of us are selfish and so myopic that we cannot even see what our actions show or in most respects do not show, but there are reasons for this behavior. Many of which we bring on ourselves.
So next time when you are out and decide that being out with others is more important than being with the partner you claim to have a committed relationship with and love, while you are gone, just recant they may have someone else over showing them the value they feel they deserve needs to be shown by you. So this point of order is basically to say, take care of your partners and all of their needs as they do you. If they don’t, then we will not realize what we had until it is gone and another has taken the prize that we never saw until they are gone. Happy Nappy.