Do Black Women Support Adultery?

We know that men, in particular married men have a problem in our community, not all but some. I like to call this the keeping it in your pants syndrome. Yes I am speaking about adultery, when a man or woman sleeps with a married person and they know they are married. I do not claim to be the moral zeitgeist, but I have recognized that nowadays, just as many women are guilt of the pleasures of the flesh as are men, so my query to you is, do black women promote adulteress behavior more so in this current generation than generations past?

I ask this based on two recent observations, I could make it three if i decided to include the debauchery proffered by a one Superhead, but I won't. Albeit I feel that her influences on young women is foul seeing that it supports scandal and leg opening for fortune and fame.

The two examples I am referring too are Alicia Keyes and Former 'American Idol' Winner Fantasia Barrino. I would expect that any woman who was married and found out that another woman was being intimate with her husband would be mad, and mad at any woman who slept with a married man. I would also expect that, although it takes two to tango, that women would equally find that both the man and woman involved to be disrespectful, despicable and sordid.

However, what I noticed regarding Alicia Keys, and her affair with Music Producer Swizz Beats, was that many made excuses and even applauded her actions as acceptable behavior under the guise of the man and his wife were separated. Like separation is the same as a divorce or that maybe even she was the cause for the separation.

Now I do not know how women will respond to the allegations that Fantasia Barrino made sex tapes with a married man, but I wonder if celebrity gives such behavior a pass by some. I never heard Alicia Keyes being called a home-wrecker as i suspect many common folk would be labeled. But it is obvious that the wife off Antwuan Cook, Paula Cook thinks otherwise.

It seems that in the age of strip clubs, groupies and fame, women now, more than ever are willing to do whatever to get paid or get a little name recognition. This type of behavior is merely a reflection of what has now become common place. Yes the men are just as guilty, but can't a woman say no if she knows the man is married? I don't know, that's why I am just asking the query, do black women support adultery and what makes women give Alica Keyes or Fantasia Barrino a pass for acts they would not forgive their girlfriend or sister for if they slept with their husband? Or would they "rather be cheated on than broken up with or take a piece of a man that's married?"

the adulteress

I have always wondered if it was possible for an adulteress to actually value and respect the sanctity of a monogamous relationship and or marriage? I have also wondered if an adulteress can change her ways? I have come to conclude that the answer is no, for once an adulteress always an adulteress. For she will always love that married man first above all other men or else they would have not knowingly started the relationship or be able to cut all ties completely with that man.

For an woman that sleeps with a married man will always have some kin and affection to that man and will do anything to keep ties with that person. Now I know you are saying this is not all women. And I agree, but for the woman that knowingly interacts with a married man, and if that man may have some fame or recognition to his name, I will venture to say she will never be faithful and trustworthy. She will always stay in touch with that man, and when things do not go her way in life she will look to him for a false sense of security. He may buy her things and she may ask that he buy her things when in fact she will say that she has a man or look the other way of the fact that he is married. This mean you will lie and do anything to maintain that relationship even if you know such is unhealthy and sinful. This means they will ask them for favors, and they will provide, knowing they only expct one thin from them in return-sex.

The strange thing is that this man will always be able to have her in his bed for she thinks little of herself, of her relationships with her partner and nothing at all of this man’s wife. She will even get upset at her man if he even speaks to a single woman or stay in touch with an old girlfriend. But she on the other hand sees no wrong in her actions for she is merely a whore who will open her legs for him just because he has fame. Which means in my eyes that you can’t turn a ho into a housewife. Sad thing is that she will teach her daughter if she has children that it is ok, But such a woman would likely not even know or is uncertain who the father of their child is.

So to all you men and women who continue to interact with married men and women, or who cheat on your partners and continue to interact in any form or sort with a man or woman you know is married, shame on you. For in the end, you will loose what may be of the greatest value that is right in front of your eyes. By then it is to late for you can lie to another person but you cannot lie to yourself, as if you do not know what you are doing is wrong.