Monday, August 21, 2006

man on the side

One of my homeboys and I decided to go out the other night. We had a ball in the heart of Adamsville — the flat lands. I will not name the edifice but let’s just say that it starts with the initials JR. Any who, while I was there I noticed that everyone was super-friendly. Especially the women.

After we had been formally introduced to everyone that keeps the club running smoothly — especially the lady security guard with the Glock pistol on her side, we assumed seats near the deejay booth. Eventfully, after a few more hand shakes, and obvious amiable interactions, a woman approached us. My homeboy always introduces me, out of courtesy, to all of the women in the place, but I had my eye on the security person.

She was wearing practically nothing, which actually showcased more of what she was trying to conceal. All of us, including my friend cordially conversed, so when he decided to excuse himself from the conversation, Ms. Security and I continued talking. I gave her my business card when she inquired about my profession. I was really preoccupied with the deejay and the infectious music he was playing, as well as the perfectly mixed Absolut and tonic the security lady had bought for me.

When my friend came back, he whispered in my ear that we were heading to another spot. I informed my newfound lady friend of my departure while she looked me up and down and proceeded to write her number down. She said, “take my number [and] give me a call, I have a man but you can be my man on the side.”

My first thought was — Damn! So I told her that I couldn’t afford the things required to hold the title of being her man. She just looked at me and smiled. I could only wonder if this is what relationships have been reduced to. Simply a game you play with men as pawns. I mean, do women disrespect and devalue solid relationships? Naw, I refuse to believe that. It must have been the atmosphere or perhaps the drinks.

12 comments:

P said...

FIRST IN LINE!!!

This goes on far more than you could imagine.

In fact, I'm surprised that she even told you from the get go.

Women (and men for that matter) usually get you snared in their entrenches before they go in for the kill.

I would say that this is her M.O. As based on what YOU want, that's probably not up your alley.

Torrance Stephens bka All-Mi-T said...

whats been up sister? and i bet u are right. But i wanted to thank her for the drink - lol

Miz JJ said...

This is why all this HIV/AIDS is running rampant in the black community. All this 'I got a man, but that don't mean a thing' bullshit. Ick.

somemeofbeauty said...

WE LEARNED IT FROM WATCHING YOU OKAY!!!!


lol but for real. I think women have just decided to join the game. If you cant beat em join em. This is Atlanta I bet her man was somewhere at another club giving someone the same line...I got a woman but...

My question is what is the point of being in a relationship? And does the fact that she is in a relationship make it any worse? What if she would have said- oh I dont have A man..Im dating a couple of men right now and you can join the team! Would she then not be an example of why HIV/AID's is running rampant? I guess the ideal response (that you would only get when asking someone like ME for my number) would be no Im not seeing ANYONE right now. I will go home and wait for your call. Yay I actually get to use my phone this month!

But Dr. Stephens she definately wanted your body...and some money..but mainly your body! You still got it!

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Mizrepresent said...

But Dr. Stephens she definately wanted your body...


You seen his body??? Hey, what am i missing? (lol)

So T, where's those body pics at?

oh and btw...no, this is not how and what most women want..most want to be exclusive, we share when we don't know the difference, but then again sometimes we share when we do, and perhaps don't care...

obifromsouthlondon said...

damn dawg! getting macked like that. careful though she might be one of them S&M types, pistol whupping your ass for kicks ;)

don't know how c'mon it is but over here it's getting like that. foul

MsJayy said...

*sigh* Like P said, it does go on far more than you imagine. Sad. While I'm all for letting a guy know you're interested, please - that "you can be my man on the side" is asking for trouble. People have no clude what a relationship is supposed to be. Dang! I wanna revoke her "Sistahood license" for real! I'ma call a meeting 'bout it.

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