i aint no prince charming (post # 400)

No Boring ass politics today from this diabolic mind, just a simply query. I have always wondered where the knight in shining armor, for lack of a better phrase, the “prince charming syndrome came or originated from. Sure, I know about fairy tales and Sleeping Beauty, but when did such transpose itself to real life? You never hear folk talking about Frankenstein in real life, so why this particular fairy tale? I mean it is specifically designed for women.

I know men have their dreams of the perfect mate, however, we are not raised to look for a princess charming, nor are we raised to seek the ubiquitous doctor or Lawyer for a mate; or as it is nowadays, a rapper, professional athlete or movie star.

I think this syndrom does noting for positive relationships. In fact it does the opposite, it places fictitious standards on real life such that many are blinded by ones accomplishments and material attainment more so than the character, integrity of actual substance of the man - which in all actually define a man.

Personally, I can cut the Prince charming cake. I have meet women who were more enamored with me having a PhD than the person I attempt to be. The problem most women I meet is that they thing Jones here is a regular mutha fucka. But I aint, I consider myself the truth. Many say they like a man with family values or a family man but will turn around and say that you spend too much time with your kids. Others will say they like a man who is well endowed in the manhood department, but will complain and say that one is too big. They may say the like a man with some street acumen but suggest the folk you hang with - your friends, are too dangerous. Or worse, that they like a man who can cook, but indicate that you are trying to get them fat. So what gives?

Again like I said just a simple query. If there is a woman that desires me to be her prince charming, they better go else where for I am not prince charming, I am Torrance Stephens, a man, and more importantly, a human being.

The next generation

…and I am not speaking of star trek, I am talking about our own, and if we are to SAVE the aforementioned:

1] Stop smoking weed in front of your kids

2] Don’t curse around your kids or even worse curse at them.

3] Take that money from the clubs and bars and spend it on some piano or tap lessons or basketball

4] Turn them videos off and the radio on the morning and listen to NPR, sports talk, or suffer with the Disney radio (they good for teaching sentence structure and vocabulary).

5] If you are not working, do not put your children off with the baby sitter. Spend as much time with them as you can.

6] Stop fighting or beating on your woman (or man) in front of your children. They will suffer the most in the end. Violence is not the answer – least always.

7] Read to them all the time, and let the see you reading, especially newspapers each day.

8] When you can, sit at the table together and eat and talk

9] let them see honor, integrity and character by letting them see you live your life as such and by standing for what you believe and what is right.

i know im missing some, so all additional info is welcome, and thanks for the love folk. good lookn.

full of shit

How many folks do yawl know who have been described as being full of shit? I myself have been described as full of shit, however mostly by women who had some feeling of intimidation about me or my being, or by long time friends who questioned my desire for education – albeit in love.

For example number one, take the following:
ME: “That some stupid shit”.
HER: “You full of shit. You think you know everything. Going out to eat is cheaper than cooking.”

For example number two lets take this:
“Jones main, why you wanna go and get a PhD., you got too much street in you, them crackers aint gone let you get no PhD. You they worse nightmare. You full of shit Jones.”

One should never be proud of being viewed as such by any being. In fact they should be looked at and valued and appreciated. Too many times the simple interaction between individuals goes forsaken and taken for granted. One could easily say “maybe you are right” or “you might be the one Jones to get his PhD I know main”, or something like that. But what do we do, we get defensive and tell folks they full of shit. Unless it is in humor.

I figure we mostly say it when we feel uneasy, and it is quicker to berate and degrade rather than to value or appreciate. We do it because we are unsure of our selves or maybe even plain ole hateful and evil, or worse, jealous. The proper use is in that of the unbelievable as in example number two. But it should never be used to vilify ones thoughts and associated cognitive processes thereof. Another use could be to use such to explain work policies that say you cant make money outside of them own your own even in view of fourt amendment rights (one has 100% ownership of their labor).

Although I know some people full of shit, I don’t say it out loud often, and actually pride myself on being above such. But then again that’s subjective and I am human.