Thursday, May 25, 2006

keep it tight


I think I want to settle down now. In fact I have been thinking about this for a while. The consternation however, revolves around finding the right partner. Yes, she has to be my partner. By definition, a partner is one that shares; and one associated with another especially in an action. We would have to have a solid relationship too, and by that I mean having and knowing what it takes to create a thriving marriage and being connected or binding in mind, body soul and spirit.

In biblical terms, I would like for it to be as written in
1 Corinthians 13:4-7 where real love is defined as being patient with each other, being kind to each other, being never envious of each other, never boasting to or about each other, having a relationship characterized by humility, never being rude to each other, not being self-seeking, not being easily angered with each other, being truthful with each other, protecting each other and trusting each other.

I'm not afraid to love either, i mean if i can give it to my kids and dogs and family I can do it for a woman as well and I'm not afraid of being hurt nor will I fear such because of emotional pain and memories. So I don't think anyone else should be either. For me, the problem is in this age of groupies, tricks and wants be video models, it’s hard to find someone like that. So I still dream and wonder if such is possible. Strike that I do, and I am optimistic and i think/know I have found that one. Its just hard work and ups and downs and some technical difficulities but i know what we got is unbreakable. Just my two cents. So all yawl in a good working partnership/relationship, i hope this motivates u to keep your head up and keep that relationship tight, because its hard work and it wont get any eaiser.

25 comments:

P said...

Wow.

And I mean WOW the way a child looks at Disney World.

This is a great post.

I have noticed something.

Women are ready to settle down when they find the 'right' man.

Men will settle down when they are ready and they have a good woman in position.

Problem with most folks, is that love is not passive. It is action. Love is a verb. It demonstrates action. It means what you can and will do for that person. It means meeting their needs, and often times, supplying what they need.

And yes, it is possible. The possibilities are endless. And do you know where "Miss Raw Dawg" is. . .

She's doing the same thing you're doing. Thinking about you, going about her daily bid-ness, and knowing that you are there for her.

Poetic Blue said...

Interesting outlook my overly verbose brotha.

GC (God's Child) said...

hmmm... I am suspicious of that book cover. Real Life Stories of Black Love? Like before this book came along stories of Black Love were fictional? Like Black Love is so rare?

Mizrepresent said...

I like the post. I really like how you open up and say whats on your mind...and i agree with P, because P you hit the nail on the head..."And do you know where "Miss Raw Dawg" is. . .
She's doing the same thing you're doing. Thinking about you, going about her daily bid-ness, and knowing that you are there for her."

Exactly....btw my heart skipped a beat when i read this...oh now back to that dreaming thing.

Poetic Blue said...

Mr. Buffalo next time you are not allowed to post in reference to conversations had will Ms. Blue is under extreme emotional duress and is lacking other essentials.

Ri said...

I need to post that verse from Corinthians somewhere in my house so I can remember it with my wife. Surely, she deserves better. Each day without her kicking me out is a good day.

Mizrepresent said...

Don't do it T... Hold on, i'm coming..give me about 5 years though.

Brownsoul said...

I've never been in love and the whole relationship thing hasn't yet worked out for me.

I try to be optimistic because I really do believe that someone is out there who I can grow with, learn from, and teach, but it's hard to keep the optimism when you've had some pretty bad experiences. I've even sworn off dating guys named Anthony (don't ask...lol).

I guess I should be patient and stop dating guys who I know are trouble just to have something to do.

I believe there's someone for everyone and a time for everything. Your time is coming and your someone is out there.

i like liquor and tv said...

"real love is defined as being patient with each other, being kind to each other"

well, that counts me out.

aquababie said...

i hope you find that special person.

hard work isn't the word for me these days. i won't elaborate :)

Brea said...

"I think I want to settle down now. In fact I have been thinking about this for a while."

I could tell by your blogging, no suprise here. So far in my short dating history, I've had the best relationships when I wasn't looking. I wonder if that applies to a life-long partner? I dunno, but the thought of settling down is still scary to me.

chris said...

yea, there are still good girls out there. don't give up hope. i think everyone (who's decent) is looking for what you are looking for. it's put in us by the Amighty. keep hope alive, you will find her

Miz JJ said...

I feel you about being ready to settle down with someone.

tianne_x said...

i hope you find that special person.....you seem to have the right qualities and mindset......things will fall into place with time

Emanuel Carpenter said...

Come on now brothuh. Where you lookin'? If you lookin' in the clubs, you ain't gone find her there. You gots to look for a spiritual woman where a spiritual woman would normally hang out...in the "Chuhch". If not there, maybe on the job or at a professional networking function or at a university. We know there's a shortage of good brothuhs out there. I hear this is especially true in Atlanta. I can't believe the search is that difficult for a well-educated, professional brother like yourself.

MsJayy said...

All things in time my brother. And as a single woman (not advertising but um...LOL) who knows that good brothers exist & that love is possible, it's good to hear a man yearn for the same things. Re: comments about 'shortage', there can be no shortage where God provides. Believe dat!

I'm not a nice Gurl said...

Ahh man let me serve you up 2 Thanks you's real quick and proper like. :)
1. thank you for the reminder. After being in a committed relationship for a long period of time, there is a tendency to forget what a blessing a loving partnership really is.
2. thank you for sharing, this heartfelt message. Your queen awaits you and she is everything you want and need her to be, you deserve it.
Dont give up on optimism.

R-

Anonymous said...

I don't know why you on here acting like you ain't got no woman when you do.Yes this is Torrance's baby's momma and I aint takin no shit. Maybe thats why you wrote this. This is for all the females who trying to internet push up on my man I had to let yall know that I'm crazy and I will fight you...

al's wife said...

it is hard. and it is worth it. and we are just people. but it is possible to cultivate the greatest love under the most trying conditions...as a matter of fact i think it's a necessary ingredient.

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