I don’t need no man

I was driving in to the office today and I was listening to one of the local radio stations. They ask different questions everyday, and today’s topic was centered on why sisters say they don’t need a man or something to that effect. I decided to write on this not only because it peeked my curiosity but also because I forgot the essay that I wrote over the weekend at home under my bed. However, I will post it tomorrow.

I just wonder how many women, sisters in particular, feel that they do not need a man and why? For me, having a man if I were a woman would mean that I have the opposite of myself in male form. Just as the brain has two hemispheres that work opposite of each other yet in concert at the same time, this is what having a mate of the opposite sex would be to me. In addition, they would have to be my partner and my equal and completely devoted to the single picture that we contrive together. To say that one does not need a man says to me that this individual does not believe in the concert in family. After all fathers, brothers, and uncles are men and I suspect that women need them in their lives.

I guess the truth is that many of the women who say this never had a man in their family in the form of a father or husband. This means that some of us men have dropped the ball. It also says that many of these women, as children were probably taught and learned such from their mothers, who likely did not have a husband or a man in their life. In essences leading to generations of women growing up with this belief - they do not need a man. Which also means that if they do not know how to recoginize a man, they will never be able or know how to respect or treat a man, even their sons.

I would like to offer that women reconsider this. I mean you do need a man and we men need women. You can raise your children by yourself true, bout they would benefit from the presence of a man if you see it or not. And not just little boys, but little girls as well because they will be able to discern what a real man is from the role their father plays, if positively oriented toward the family, in their lives mean. Then they wouldn’t want no full or gangster or thug or even consider such as a man.

The real problem is that those women who say such confuse being able to provide and take care of themselves as the rationale for not needing a man – for they only see a man as a source of income. Which means, they never learned or saw what a man is, because his character, work ethic, judges a man and how he is able to show affection and love to his woman and children universally? But then again, I may be wrong, and it may just be that in order for a woman to be able to see the real value of a man, they must be happy with themselves first, and may have to deal with the issues and demons inside of them that select to suggest they do not need us – men, in the first place.