Tuesday, February 13, 2007

To The Left

Popular music seems to define our culture and existence today. From movies to music, one can see this influence. The other day, I was at a Bar my boy owns and I was having a drink (on the house). I over heard a woman talking to another woman and she quoted in explanation to a question the woman asked, that “he was to the left.”

Now I like this song, I think that kid Ne-Yo threw down on and I love the guitar riff, but I just do not understand the lyrics. I mean, why would one want to replace an obviously no good, cheating and unfaithful man with another no-good, unfaithful and cheating man?

Many of us fail at relationships because we do not understand that to make one work, we have to be self-less and giving unconditionally. In addition, there needs to be an understanding up front of the needs of each party. One problem I think women settle for these types of men is because they do not have anything to do outside of a relationship or worse, have nothing to bring to the table. I mean outside of shopping, going out for food or drinks, what do most bring to the table. I mean, some may work, but if they do, what else can they talk about ?

I think the message that this song gives is messed up. Many of us, men and women are ungrateful for what we have, but when we do find the person of quality, we complain and say we are bored. Then with the one we place to the left, we complain because he does not have the qualities or characteristics of a faithful, honest and hard working man. So the next time you sing this song, ask yourself women, do you really want another fool or do you want a man, and are you able to appreciate and value that man for being such, or will you still complain?

10 comments:

Emanuel Carpenter said...

T,

I haven't heard the Ne-Yo song you're referring to. I heard Beyonce sing "to the left" in her hit "Irreplaceable" though. The theme was she was fed up with her cheating man who didn't pay for his own stuff anyway.

I've run into a lot of ladies who have been in this situation. They get a brother who looks good but has nothing else going for him and figure they can fix him. Or they get a brother who loses his job and doesn't rush to replace it. In those situations, I can't blame the ladies for telling him all his stuff is packed over in that box to the left.

I'm not a nice Gurl said...

so okay.. im not sure if i can comment properly.. ive had a man for a loonnnnga time... so i can only speculate...its hard work... tryin to keep things fresh and spontaneous.. but as many of my friends have told me.. and they have very little patience... the chase/hunt is everything.. so they say if he acts up a lil bit they just get another one... **sigh** an endless perpetual petty lil game... did i even answer the question... jeopardy is on!

jd anderson said...

Beyonce is not saying she wants another man just like him. She saying that she has given her all to this man let him drive her car, bought him nice things, and he didn't appreciate her and ultimately cheated by riding other women around in her car. She dismissed that brother and found her a new love and like every new relationship hoping it is the one that doesn't repeat the same things as the last one did.

People do need to be up front on what they want because a closed mouth does not get fed and if he tells you up front he can't give you what you need don't waste your time, you can't change anyone, it has to come from within.

Anonymous said...

unfortunately, for a lot of people "something"...even if that something is not that good, feels better than nothing. so, it's the avoiding the feeling of "nothing" that leads people to go right back to another one just like the last one...

Torrance Stephens bka All-Mi-T said...

Ne-Yo wrote the song for Beyonce

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