Saturday, June 14, 2008


I first came across the word denouement in a 7th grade honors English class. It was really part of a program in the Memphis Public Schools called CLUE (Creative Learning in a Unique Environment). Don’t know why they asked me to be in it, by the 8th grade I got kicked out for playing paper football and reading comic books, but I think what got them was when I did a Book Report on Valley of the Dolls – any who.

The word is a French word meaning "unwinding," and supposedly refers to the outcome or result of a complex situation or sequence of events, an aftermath or resolution that usually occurs near the final stages of the plot of a novel and normally occurs or starts after the climax is over. For me, it occurs only after all the conflicts have been resolved.

I wanted to use this word to describe my present sentiments about me and mine, my community that is for it is almost reflective of a tragic story, like The Princess De Cleves by Madame de Lafayette or Rameau's Nephew by Denis Diderot or even my own A Matter of Attention, which is about a writer who tries to figure about what it is about writing that he loves so much when he makes no money from it. Such to the extent that he feels he has to select the Love of his life (Margarita) or his writing, which to him is more loving than any woman could be.

The way I see, many of us have lost our ways, whether it is the person who is too lazy to work hard for a small few and select to sell drugs for quick profits or the woman that wants to take off her clothes for men for a green piece of paper. Whether it is a teacher in our school system that spend more time on what she or he will wear and in Lennox Mall than the Library. Or even those that cannot abide by the adage of doing unto others as they would like other to do unto themselves. Regardless, we have a problem for in reality many of us fail to realize that a bird in the hand is better than two in the bush.

We have lost our way, and I aint no preacher nor am I a prognosticator, but just a regular man who cannot compass when we started to loose our way. It is as if the fortitude for lying is more acceptable than being honest and telling the truth. Or that fake images mean more than evincing a sever depiction for other to know or learn about us. I mean in music and movies, this is so vivid. We admire the oleaginous flow of a TI or as Lil Wayne but yet do not take them to task for glorifying infidelity, personal responsibility and having the common sense and decency to evaluate the impact of their messages under the guise of the beat being funky or they just making money. We don’t tolerate the same irresponsibility of George Bush, but we can from folks who in action are just as foul and dangerous to our understanding of communal value. No wonder the family and lack of respect for such is rampant. We expect our mates to love our children as we do after a failed relationship yet will not do the same, for if they are not our children we hold disdain. We expect for people to love us unconditionally yet we cant or don’t love ourselves enough to know or understand love. I see why the Native Americans could not come to agreements or treaties with the white men of the era for they did not practice what the preached and were dishonest. We say family is important but the truth is it is not. especially for us men who place running the streets over calling or being with or kids, or those women who would prefer to place their feelings over their children and use them as pawns.

So, I guess I will close and say. We need to look at how we contribute to dissonance in chaos in our own minds and hearts and stop blaming other for what we do and don’t practice ourselves. In this novel, the one we all are involved in, is at its Denouement, and one of a very crappy E Lynn Jerome Dickey Tyree Novel if you asked me – my 2 cents

PS: Bags are in. you Like?

side bar: KG deserves a ring.


2sweetnsaxy said...

Another great post, not that I expected any less. You have a great weekend too! And I think the bags are "marvelous"! :-) I really like them.

paisley said...

i think that is what draws us all together,, we are all searching,, we are all trying to make it all make some sense... and i know,, at least in my little neck of the woods,, taking responsibility for my own actions,, was just the jumping off point......

The True Urban Queen aka Sharon said...

Preach on preacher.
I never have been one to use my children as a pawn. I hate when I hear women doing that. That is what is wrong with our youth people need to understand that children need their parents invovled in their life even if the parents aren't together.
I, as woman, also wouldn't put myself over my children ever. I will make sure they get the last of everything from food to money.
And what is wrong with men? Making babies and then turning away from the child. Sad.

I like the bags. I'm gonna have to fly down and visit your store.

Pajnstl said...

Good job with your bags!

Ms. Jones said...

"We don’t tolerate the same irresponsibility of George Bush, but we can from folks who in action are just as foul and dangerous to our understanding of communal value." The line speaks for itself and I couldn't have said it better myself. The bags are fab!!!

Rich said...

what up folk. the bags are the joint. get that paper.

nywele said...

"We expect for people to love us unconditionally yet we cant or don’t love ourselves enough to know or understand love"
AMEN on that!! I am working on loving myself...sometimes I do, sometimes I find flaws everywhere, but eventually we'll get there...

great post and the bags are really cute!!
did i tell you that i am afraid of dogs?? One bit me when I was 9 and since then, I've been afraid of them ever since!! especially the ones who love to play and jump on people.

Anyways, best of luck on your business!

T.Allen-Mercado said...

Interesting and insightful. We're an entitled lot; there is an expectation with little investment and inspection. I agree wholeheartedly with the seemingly one-sided tolerance level.Until we recognize that the whole is greater than the sum of its parts we will continue to wait for utopia instead of working together toward it.

Thanks for the drive-by.


LadyShay said...

I like the bags!

Aunt Jackie said...

the bags are hot!!

and as my parents always said, community starts at home.

I am fortunate that I have been raised with strong if not old fashioned community values in regards to family. we are close knit, we ate dinner together at the table with no television every night, except for an occasional 60 Minutes episode and most importantly I was taught filial piety which means that I have always honored my elders.

"We" are impotent if our own homes and hearts are not in order. "We" are only as strong as our weakest link which is to say that if "we" do not fully embrace the process of becoming our greater selves, our community will suffer.

I also believe that strong communities thrives with strong relationships, and strong relationships barely stand a chance in toxic communities for life is a symbiotic balance always.

I find strength thru my spiritual community and family while other's may find it else where.

Happy Father's Day and I hope that your community building and work in regards to life improvement are ever fruitful!

Lovebabz said...

Denouement: This is French for “unknotting” and is essentially the wrapping up of all the loose details of the plot in order to satisfy the reader or audience.
These are the four classic parts of a plot. Depending upon the artist, a story may not have all the parts. Many stories are without a denouement. A story like “The Lady or the Tiger” by Frank Stockton does not have a climax.

I say all that to say, the story on the human race and more importantly "our" folks is far from finished. It is far from climaxing. Although things may seem dire to some, those of us who look through a different lens see hope, and possibility and love. Perhaps it is too soon to wring our hands over our current state of affairs. I might also add that perhaps the thing to do is to keep on doing what we do in the positive and affirmative on behalf of those that came before and those that will come after. Regardless of what others do, good or bad, evil, insane or just plan old foolish, You just keep holding it down and holding the light up for the rest of us to follow along!

Keep the faith. People will often surpise you in the best possible way if you let them.

The bags look FAB!

D'lee Trecia said...

i like the bag!... i'm sorry i didn't read much.. too tired and i saw the "BrainCell" then i knew it has something to do with your store...

Marcelle D. Ward said...

Say word. I came across that word denouement the same way, in an honors English class in 7th grade.

I still recall that to this day, and that's 22 years gone.

Nice spot, I gotta get up on mine fo sho.

enigma4ever said...

see, the thing is - if one person sees that we have lost our way- and says it out loud to others and we all kind of look at it- and each other- and we go yeah- there is something wrong here....that is the Paisley said- it is the starting point...but it also draws us is something that needs healing....and at this point I don't think any of us can do it alone.....really beautiful post....keep writing is part of the healing of it...broken souls need healing...but this is the beginning of it...

Waiting for Zufan! said...

Hey, I meant to get a thinking comment up on this post, but something about having 3 kids makes it hard to follow through on these blogging obligations...

In any case, in my life, seems as soon as there is any "denouement" in any area, I find a way to knot up another area. Or life just does it to me, however you want to look at it. Oh well. Guess if we didn't keep struggling, well, what would it all be about anyway? And yep, I try to take responsibility for my own messes, but sometimes it is so tempting to shift the blame.

Anyway, Happy Father's Day to you! Yep, I was talking to you on today's post, since you are maybe the only daddy reading! Hope you get lots of use out of those bags, and have a great day. :)

The Jaded NYer said...

I do like the bags... did you ever get the postcards made up?

KELSO'S NUTS said...

My mother taught me that word at about the same age. I had to write an essay on a short story called TWO BOTTLES OF RELISH by LORD DUNSANY.

TheophaniaPaige said...

My favorite word is circuitous...

The bags are very nice and can really serve more than one purpose. To carry out your fabulous merchandise and to ripen produce when they get home! lol

Happy Daddy's Day!!! ;)

JayBee said...

i agree with you about kg. like the bags. i love acronyms(clue).

James Tubman said...

im glad that you are addresing these issues

i agree we seem to be in roung shape

and i believe tht there is a lot of potential

just look at this blog

im sure you have people who come on here from all over the globe

Afrikan people from all walks of life just imagine if all of us said that we will not rest until we get all the black bloggers together to donate money to an orgainzationm that we control and find some way to solve our own problems with the money that we raised

it can be done

we just need vision and imagination

msladydeborah said...

I'll beging with my sidebar thought:
You did a book report on Valley of the Dolls! You get snaps up from me. It is on my list of paperback faves from my teenage years. I bet your teacher never saw that coming! (LMAO)

You served up some good food for thought on this perfect late spring day.

And my chior is singing a melodic chorus of Amen! for what you shared.

If I lived in your region of the nation~I would be that teacher in your store, asking for a donation of a bags to take to my classroom. If I had to offer money for just to have the bags, I would. It would be such fun to fill it with a learning experience for my little folks! That pup logo would be worked!

BizyLizy said...

I really enjoyed reading this post. So very profound and honest, your gift for words, combined with your gifted insight is remarkable.

I am reminded that change begins only within ourselves. We kid ourselves if we think others don't sense duplicity in our actions. We especially kid ourselves when we believe our illusion.

Beautiful and powerful post.

Sister Toldja said...

I love it! The post and the bag!

Tera said...

Torrance your posts are always so thought provoking! We have lost our more ways than one. And along with all that you've stated, we live in a country which tries to encourage us to go to college and do "better," yet the more money you make, the more broke you become, and there is no support system. One who is on public housing and/other assistance are living a whole lot better---and get their child care paid for! That state of the world really scares me right now...

P.S. Love the betta do yo thang Pimpin'!

Bygbaby said...

On a separate note, happy fathers day!


ATLien said...

Happy Father's Day Al-Mi-T!
BTW..Cute Bags!

Torrance Stephens bka All-Mi-T said...

Thank u sister

That is my goal but people always want to find what they think and interject to destroy folks like me so I keep my head up and thanks. Take care of that closet LOL
The True Urban Queen aka Sharon
I would like that and maybe vist me as well

Thank u sister

Ms. Jones
It’s the truth and thank u

Good look jones and come back soon had a ball

u work on that,. It is the truth also, my daughters mom was like that don’t know why, my best friend growing up or one of them was too

Thank u and anytime and u come back as well ok

Thank u thank u

Aunt Jackie
Thank u and preach preach preach

I will lawys have faith and thank u

D'lee Trecia
Its coll glad u like them

Marcelle D. Ward
Small world aint it, and keep it up man,

I hope so, I am hopeful and I will continue to try

Waiting for Zufan!
That is the man reason or one of the reasons I blog, and to sale books and showcase my writing skills

The Jaded NYer
Thanks and yep 2 postcards

Mom was very wise

Thanks on both fronts

Thanks man where u been

James Tubman
I will try, and I wish more men would, and that more men would hold other men accountable
But blogging can be used for anything, from selling to meeting people, to finding love, we need to find ourselves and out commmunityb and love will be possible as well as self determination.

I wish more males would read me but it feels as if they see I talk about them for being lames or as I say (fk boys)
If the shoe don’t fit don’t ware it

thanks hon, it was my mom’s book and amen , im with that

Thnks, do come back and im gone have to chk u out if u don’t mind sister

Sister Toldja
Thank u and thanks for the FD wishes

Thanks babe, but me no pimp LOL

Torrance Stephens bka All-Mi-T said...

Thanks man and back at ya

Thank u home slice

Lena said...

First, Happy Father's Day.
Second, this blog made me sit back and think a lot because I agree with you but as always you word it so much better than I can and put it in a different perspective.

"We expect for people to love us unconditionally yet we cant or don’t love ourselves enough to know or understand love."

That was on point. And as a young woman who has had the life I had, I learned that kind of young but I rather it now than later because than I can focus on myself and be healthier, happier and wiser.

Torrance Stephens bka All-Mi-T said...

thank u. u make me feel like i have value and can make a valid contribution, and even more that my mind can be appreciated. thanmk u sista

Tia's Real Talk said...

Preach!! You were a force to be reckon with at a young age. Never heard of that book and when I read up on were exposed to interesting things at a young age! You are right about the lack of responsibility of such entertainers. Thats one reason why I don't even listen to the MESS anymore!! Nice food for thought.

KG does deserve a ring!!!!!!!!!!!


Garth Sullivan said...

the unexamined life is not worth living...

sista gp said...

Who's TI and Lil Wayne? lol, don't watch BET, MTV, VH1, or much TV/Videos anymore

Happy Father's Day

Anonymous said...

KG does deserve a ring

and sista GP, they on radio, one doesnt have to listen to know who they are

The Savvy Savage said...

You brought up a lot of good points. We are dealing with the aftermath of thoughtless actions during this day & age and we are not sure how we got to this point. But luckily our stories have not ended yet.

Thanks for visiting my blog and for the enlightenment provided by yours!

Jaded said...

LOVE the bag and love the post. Very poignant and well timed, as usual.

Most importantly...Happy Father's Day, my friend. You and all the other good fathers out there deserve to be celebrated.

The Diva's Thoughts said...

Great post.

I also love those bags!

MrsGrapevine said...

I just wanted to say HAPPY FATHER'S DAY! You talk about your kids so much that I can only imagine you're one terrific dad.

sista gp said...

@Anonymous: If someone does not watch them on TV, does not listen to rap on radio (except really old school), do not listen to underground rap, nor does it play in household, how would someone know them?
There is the exception of being a family member. I just found out that Lil Wayne is my hubby's cousin.

uNWrItten* said...

wow are quite the writer..stuff definitely makes you think..thanks for stopping by my spot.are any of ur books available around atl?..


PreciousGem-Refinement in Progress said...

Happy Father's Day! I really enjoy your blog. Great food for thought.

Dione said...

True words.
I try to get my students to see this very same point when they memorize, repeat and emulate the negative stereotypes and images they pick up in mainstream media.

I appreciate the post and I'm digging this blog! Thanks!

Ma'at said...

I'm brain dead, so I can only comment on the bags... NIIIICE... gimmee a day or two and we'll be back for more intellectual commentary

tvanel said...

Hey Torrance-

U know I speak French and I had to read great post as always and Happy belated Father's day.

Kofi said...

So sad to see children used in that manner, as I have, off and on the last few years. I think there are one or two parents out there who subconsciously think of themselves as kids with kids (child w/toy/doll-like possessions) instead of grown folk with responsibilities (truly altruistic parents)

In lighter news, the bags look great.

tz said...

Denouement has always been one of my favorite words although I didn't pick it up until high school. Maybe Memphis public schools are better than ours. Anyhoo, great post. Another favorite word of mine...fiduciary! LOL

Christopher said...


You did a book review on Valley of the Dolls in the 7th grade?

FOFROFLMAO! Dude, now that IS a hoot!

The idea of any 7th grader having his shit together enough to read the book and understand it sufficiently to write about it is funny.

You always surprise me.

Torrance Stephens bka All-Mi-T said...

Tia's Real Talk
Thank u and yes he does, loved that last poem u posted, what inspired it hon? I know that feeling

Garth Sullivan
So true, maybe that’s why we write about the same introspective issues

sista gp
Nobodies, unless u a groupie lol. But they are talented

The Savvy Savage
Thoughtless is an understantment and u welcome and I updated my blog roll u on it if u don’t mind

Toast to all the great fathers in honer of my sister

The Diva's Thoughts
Y thank u hon

Thank u and keep that fam tight, what did u do for the hubby

sista gp
Have hubby speak to that representative of the New KKK

Yes they are, any book store can get them and any black one should have them. U better come back by u are more than welcome

PreciousGem-Refinement in Progress
Thank u sister. And I better see u again

Thanks and sounds like u a throw back teachers, folks who taught me taught my mom and her brothers and sisters

I understand how have u been, aint seen any new post folk

No I didn’t, though u spoke politics lol

Yep is is very sad and glad you like the bags

Thanks, we had some tight teachers Dr. Moyer and Dr. Marsh taught me all I know about economics, statistics and physics and made me love math

My mom wouldn’t let me see the movie and said she had the book, so I read it, along with Scruples also at the time lol. How have you been. Each time I read your site I get mad but have to laugh

cordieb said...

Nice bags. This was a very good posting. It went straight to the heart of the matter; yet we still search. We can't love unconditionally because we fear hurt. So many of us have been taught that love requires love in return; such is not the truth. Loving means loving one's self and honoring one's truths. We know our truths, when we start straying from our truths is when all the trouble begins. Anywho . . . enough ramblings for now. Happy belated Father's Day. Hope all went fatherly beautiful. Peace, Light and Love, CordieB.

Tia's Real Talk said...

Thanks,,do you mean the "Do you remember poem"? Just always thought that way. You know the saying..What would Jesus Do?..I always thought about how He feels in regards to our actions and just how no one gives Him credit anymore. We are a high powered society fueled off of "self".


Bags are HOT (period) And you are preaching to the CHOIR with your thoughts, that's why you have to make a difference YOURSELF, we have no choice as parents, we have to influence our community positively and not let "entertainers", money, or any materials that are force down our throats influence us, we just can't....Let's be clear, I love to make money (period), but I will not take certain avenues to receive it not knocking women that make their money using "whatever" but I choose to use my artist ability including poerty to make it happen for me plus i work in the legal field, looks don't hurt, but I don't count on them because it fades quickly, knowledge is key because it's eternal as far as I'm concerned, can't be touched :@)

Torrance Stephens bka All-Mi-T said...

Thanks on both fronts. And true, I though a few people in my lives loved me, but they only hated themselves and I realized could never love or even know what love was, but I suspect they will or have for when it is gone it is gone and they say dang, that was love. Me I love me and aint to proud to show it.

Tia's Real Talk
Is that why they call u real talk….that was high powered

Well said, but I feel it is my duty to say what I feel, im glad martin King said and stood up for what he belived. High powered comment sister. You and Tia dropping that flame. But like you say, I am too serious. But some one has to be

Tia's Real Talk said...

Thanks T- nahh I named I have a new blogger for you to check out. She has already written her first book and her second will be out in Jan. She was interested in joining bloggers delight. her and her events..she has a lot going on. She is now working as a literary coach!

Torrance Stephens bka All-Mi-T said...

Tia's Real Talk
Just asking hon and I will chk her out ok?

Tia's Real Talk said...

kewl beans T- no rush I just wanted to make sure I gave her some pub..check her out whenever.

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