Saturday, September 20, 2008

i want the pink one

A woman told me recently, you don’t mess with a daddy’s girl. It made me smile and the simper was so warm that folk here could have burnt the sun. I was hoping she was right and in my optimism got even warmer.

Maybe that why she is the way she is. Why she reaches out for me while in her mother’s embrace, or why when she sees me gazelle like, she jumps in my arms. Or why every times she pretends her phone rings she answers “Brain cell; or sit down with her toy laptop on her legs telling me she ordering dogfood too. Yep, maybe, in the rambunctious recalcitrance she gleams, I just smile and say yes or ok.

So I guess I got the best of both world, guess my sperm work like that. First Born is my number one son. Fellas, gotta get you one of them. Second born, baby girl, fellas you gotta get you one of them too.

Especially the latter, I mean the way she crawls on me, lays her head on my shoulder when she is my arms, even how she sleeps in my lap – can u say the bomb. And I really love it when she say “naw folk, we don’t get down like that” or “nothing jones” or “that’s my song.” So fellas, I don’t know what gives. I mean love your kids, I don’t care if they momma crazy or you crazy. Nurture that spirit which has originated from your loin for love sake, and make no excuse and let no obstacle get in your way for doing such.

Cause if u true, learn to live the love in the experience of buying your baby girl cupcakes with pink icing just because she say “I want the pink ones.” I guess money and the economy aint everything. vote


Dione said...

U R right. Money and economy aint everything. Love is. And the unconditional love of the fruit of your loins is the best feeling in the world. Much love to ya!

hey! said...

[And I really love it when she say “naw folk, we don’t get down like that”]

How cute!

Som eof my fave moments are with my bro and he ain't even my kid. Like when I caught him climbing around some boxes and he was whispering to himself '"be careful little boy, be careful."

I thought my heart would melt.

jjbrock said...

Torrance one of the most precious sights to behold is a black man interacting with his daughter. Kudos to you! I love it.

Villager said...

Talk that talk Papi! I am feelin' all of your descriptions of parenthood for both the man-child and daddy's little girl. My two daughters are 15 and 11 years old ... so I don't seem to get the gazelle-like leaps any more ... but, they will both be daddy's little girl forevermore...

peace, Villager

rainywalker said...

Your a good man. I miss the little ones and all their interesting questions.

Pajnstl said...

awwwww i love hearing you talk abt your kids. esp your daughter. She is a cutie too :)

Amina said... cupcakes!
that entry is so beautiful!!
Your daughter is so precious :)

sista gp said...

Oh, ur n trouble

Anonymous said...

I think our girls would like each other, my 3 yo is also fond of pink cupcakes. LOL

Heartwarming post. Kids are truly amazing, my kids are the one thing that can put a smile on my face no matter how funky I feel.

(fŭng'kē) [blak] [chik] said...

i love to hear her in the background when she says 'jones' & 'folk'..she's definitely a chip off the old block lol

Anonymous said...

Beautiful post T. My babygirl is 16 and she STILL wants pink cupcakes!

Big ups to you for being such a great dad.

Anonymous said...

Beautiful post T. My babygirl is 16 and she STILL wants pink cupcakes!

Big ups to you for being such a great dad.

G. A. Palmer said...

It is crazy that you wrote this. I went to bible class this morning. We have men only meetings every third Saturday. Anyway, the lesson today was how a man should be a father to his children. I was actually going to blog about it. I think that's tight that you are a stand up cat. It is so important that we have strong black models for this generation. I'm not sure if you reading my spot at the time, but check this out, I think you would enjoy it...

Curious said...

I'm with sista gp on this one. "ur n trouble"

Obama Mama said...

Aw...That is sooo sweet!
I love to see my husband with our daughter, its so sweet, even though he drives me crazy, getting her out of trouble I put her in.
N.E. way....
Take the advice guys. I know baby mama drama is a biotch, but deal with it, cause in the long run its well worth it.

Your daughter is beautiful, must take after her mom. lol just joking.

Jackie E. said...

Your daughter is soooo precious! I love what you wrote and who knows, maybe someday I'll get to know what a mama's boy is like for myself:)

Keli said...


Suite B said...

cute post...

Yeah daddy's girl are something else. I bet if I asked my big grown behind asked my daddy today to go buy me some pink cupcakes today he would say...NO...but instead he would make them at home for me (he so damn cheap...LOL)

Yasmeen Christian said...

Precious. Adorable.
I want the BLUE ones.

Nicki Nicki Tembo said...

And damn it feels good to see other parents up on it! In all it's rawness, parenthood is awesome. And it deserves nothing less than our "A" game.
" earn the respect of intelligent people and the affection of children, to earn the appreciation of honest critics and endure the betrayal of false know that even one life has breathed easier because you have lived. This is to have succeeded!" - Emerson

Big O said...

Nothing like fatherhood..

keep that going jones

Anonymous said...

Wow, I love this post! Love conquors all - especially love for a little girl who loves pink! She's a cutey, and Yes, you are truly blessed. Stay blessed . . . PLL, CordieB.

Anonymous said...

Wow, I love this post! Love conquors all - especially love for a little girl who loves pink! She's a cutey, and Yes, you are truly blessed. Stay blessed . . . PLL, CordieB.

Missy said...

Great message for men and women. Love your children...regardless of what the other half says or does. It seems a lot easier said than done but so worth the effort.
I'm with jjbrock on this one...nothing like seeing a black man with his children.

Torrance Stephens - All-Mi-T said...

yea, thanks babe.

its true call the shop one day and u can hear her lol

id say any man - its cool beans

i know u know, how is the little man team doing, u need to keep us posted dad

i know u do, and i bet u were likely worse than me LOL

i love talking about them too

thanks babe, she needs to work on her cvolors cause that was the icing lol

sista gp
i know lol

i would lovbe to see that - them playing

(fŭng'kē) [blak] [chik]
yep call the shop sometime again folk

thanks babe lol, 16 can u say cavities

G. A. Palmer
will chk it out, now that sounds like a church for the people

so when u in the atl, i can be mad at u for spoiling her to LOL

Obama Mama
lol i hope he keeps on making u mad - its his job, and yep her mom is beautiful, i dont get down like that

Jackie E.
u will, make sure dad is around

anmd how

Suite B
dad sounds smart, when is the wedding so u can becvome a momma

Yasmeen Christian
want jones to get u some bl;ue cup cakes folk

Nicki Nicki Tembo
dropping that ralph waldo was tight folk

Big O
u know im preaching to the chior to u - thanks jones

yep i am blessed

well i know some men who make excuess and such is not acceptable

mrs. mary mack said...

I'm blessed to have an awesome father too. I know she will be as thankful.

RealHustla said...

I love pink cupcakes =)

Katrina said...

Oh my goodness your daughter is so beautiful!! I can't wait until I have children!! You are so blessed!!!

SoCal Muchacha said...

Love this blog posting, Torrance, absolutely love it! :) Interestingly enough Skeptical Brotha just wrote one on fathers/sons and you both have me heading back to that incredible urge to FINALLY finish classes for my teaching credential. (Just need those Lotto numbers to come through for that. ;)) There is NOTHING like the feeling you get when a younger one looks to YOU to just help them "be"--to help explain the world around them, to help them understand their feelings, to mimic you, to stretch your boundaries (and your patience ;)). They come to us with such innocence, but with such sheer joy and curiosity about life, and the way they help US see life through THEIR eyes--magical, just magical. (Never mind what they teach us, without even trying! :))

Since I don't have kids of my own (well, my 4-legged, furry boy IS my kid, but...), it's working with children, and spending time with my young nephews, that keeps me in a similar place to the one you so fondly described for all of us. What a lucky young "pink cupcake" gal she is for having a daddy that adores her. You'd think with two dads--"real dad" and "step-dad"--I'd have found that daddy's girl thing, but didn't. I was fortunate, though, to be a "grampa's girl", and even though he's been gone for years, he's still with me in everything I do--especially my smart ass writing. ;)

Thanks for sharing a bit of your life, Torrance. :)

Tamra said...


Kit (Keep It Trill) said...

I love that last photo of you and her. It's so real, so black America, I love it. Thanks for sharing.

4GOTTEN1 said...

I respect you so much for this you have no idea

memphiz said...

aww u already know I love this post... your such a good father.

Keisha "Kitten" Isaacs said...

Hey Brother!

This was simply beautiful....they are blessed to have such a loving dad...I pray your love of fatherhood rubs off on those who neglect their duty to raise up their children in the way they should go....I pray when I get married and have children my husband will love our kids just as much as you love yours. That's what's up!

LiteBrite said...

Hey I'm new to your site but i've been reading some of your old post esp the ones on fatherhoodd. I just wanna say I think your blog is amazing and the love you show for your children displays (sadly) something i'm not used to seeing A REAL MAN and a REAL FATHER.
I pray that when i do have kids its with a man who regards fatherhood in the same fashion as you.Anyways i gotta go back to reading your old entries. Keep up the great work =)

msladydeborah said...

Awww...this made me feel all warm and fuzzy inside!

I love reading posts from a gushing dad. Especially when it is obvious that he is feeling a real moment of love for his babies.

I did not have girls. I do now. I just spent the day with them and my little fella. It is still amazing to me that I am now a grandmother. Even more amazing is the transitions that my little boys have gone through because of their daughters and son. They are responsible and caring which makes me feel pretty good as their mother.

I hope and pray that all of our children feel loved and well cared for. This is a crazy world and a whole lot of things are going on and will continue to do so.

But the unconditional love that we give and receive from our children makes this place a lot more enjoyable.

Have a good week T, may you and yours be blessed.

Linda said...

....isn't that just the cutest? In a few years you'll be able to put up a sign on your store: "Braincell - by All-mi-T and daughter" ;)

Our little one is a total daddy's girl too.. I was too.. and my sis in law was too.. I'm starting to see a pattern here.. *lol*

Greetings from the netherlands!

p.s. "naw folk, we don’t get down like that" - how sweet would that sound coming out of a little girl like that! :D

RiPPa said...

I'm a the only man in my house, and I'm surrounded by 4 beautiful women (including my wife of course). Sometimes they get on my nerves, even down to the 1yr old. But I wouldn't have it any other way. I think I'm a beter person for it.

TheophaniaPaige said...

Black love on every level is so beautiful especially between parent and child. She's too cute, I can't say that enough!

NoRegrets said...

Almost an exact match to her top too! It almost looks like lipstick - make her wait for that stuff... imho.

OG, The Original Glamazon said...

Toooooooooo cute! There is nothing that makes me smile more than a man and his children in a healthy loving relationship! She is SO CUTE!!

You right the kiddos really do put things in perspective. Thanks.


Tera said...

Torrance that's some real shit there...daddys far and wide need to take heed. I often wonder how on earth my son's fathers can be okay with missing those cute little moments the boys have...their radiant shine...athletics...academics...and all those wonderful things about them that are the key ingredients to their individual personalities. How could they not want to witness those tiny threads of themselves which were woven into those dapper young men???

It will remain a mystery to me.

MrsGrapevine said...

I love to hear, and I love to see men with their children. I have two boys and the pride I feel is ridiculous. It's like I'm sexist, because I feel like lioness because of my men.

Anonymous said...

LOL.. too dayum funny.. talking like her papa lol...

but yeah talking about your kids is nice... the only thing i understand most of the time over here lol...

The Socialite said...

Family is a great thing to have! Cherish them while they are here...

I wish more fathers were like you! :)

uNWrItten* said...

awwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww is u getting soft or what?
this is so true..i cant believe she actually says "naw folk...." haha hilarious..
oh i was watching cnn this morning and i thought i saw u on there but it was this dude from BET...was crazy tho

enigma4ever said...

so beautiful you love her so...and so beautiful that she loves you back so much...that is what it is all are right...and thank you for appreciating the wonder of it all ...

Demon Hunter said...

Awww, great post, Torrance. :-) Your little girl is precious. What you posted is the truth. I love it! :-)

Ticia said...

I am a daddy girl - nothing beats the feeling - he is an awesome man! I love him!

B said...

How beautifuuuul!!

ATLien said...

Great Post T! She is sooooo beautiful!

Bygbaby said...

My oldest daughter is such a baba's girl & I love it. My baby girl wants nothing to do with me & momma gets all the love.

That damn breast feeding!!!

Here's to be a good father!!!

Marcella said...

I just started reading your blog and your post made me all sniffly. Every little girl should have a daddy.

Your little princess will go out into the world and demand the love and respect from men that she got from her daddy. That is a forever gift and a wonderful thing.

Big Cheekz said...

my favorite posts from you are the ones where you share about your kids.

sista gp said...

what is Famous wearing?

Sheliza said...

Very sweet. It is always nice to see a good dad being dad. All they want is your love, that's it. Your baby girl is a little beauty and she obviously looks up to you and can potentially take over the business one day. That's the way it should be. I wish you a lovely day.

Shy said...

I'm so glad I got a chance to stop by today!! How ya doing? Missed ya!!

And I am a bonafide Daddy's girl. Well at least I used to be. I hate that we kind of drifted apart as I grew up. It's both of our faults tho. Plus he's busy raising my kid brother, so I mean...But I love my daddy, and I know that he'll do whatever to make sure I'm happy. He's the one always making sacrifices and bending over backwards for his kids. And that's how it should be.

Your little girl is adorable!! Great post!

laughing808 said...

she is too cute.....

More men need to be/feel that way.

Ms. Jones said...

She is beyond adorable!! Its seeing incredible black fathers like you that let me know that not all hope is lost :)

Undeniably...Deep aka Tina-B said...

I dont have any girls but this story is making me want some (or at least one).

So proud of you for being a FATHER to your children, despite the other half of their creation.

You're even more beautiful!

Much Luv & Respect

Mizrepresent said...

Awe too cute...that was so special, just like the love you have for lil mama!

Keisha "Kitten" Isaacs said...

Hey Brother!

Point well taken!!

Anonymous said...

lol I'm lucky, at 16 my babygirl has never had a cavity.

THE 0NE THEY AiNT USED T0. said...
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THE 0NE THEY AiNT USED T0. said...

she is gorgeous.

im in no position to have kids now, but they are such amazing little creatures. i have two baby brothers and they appreciate the smallest things in life and it makes me happy.

paix, ASiA Deeeee

Rich said...

a baby gurl jones, now that's what i'm talking bout.

Clifton said...

My daughters prefer ice cream sandwiches. Some days I want to be pissed and left alone. It's funny how they never accept that.

Thanks for all the comments.

blah blah blah said...

This was absolutely beautiful! much love for this!

Torrance Stephens - All-Mi-T said...

mrs. mary mack
i hope so, i really hope so

must be a woman thang lol

yes i am and dont wish it too soon - lol

SoCal Muchacha s
lol any time sister - cheering u up in light of the chargers

yep she is

Kit (Keep It Trill)
i love any photo of her or my son - biased i guess

thanks folk

thank u sister

Keisha "Kitten" Isaacs
thanks and i know with your belief system u will be

thank u and do come back if u can

warm and fuzzy is needed with the way the econmy is nowadays. thanks hon

lol, and son too. so she got hime like that already, our daughters look a like to me

RiPPa s
LOL i feel your pain (which is a smile)

she is adorable but she has hjorns too jones - women dont see them lol

u silly - lol

OG, The Original Glamazon
she and the lil man definetly ground me

its a big mystery to me

now we both know u SPOIL them all u sexist LOL

Koffee Dyme
u are silly too - u understand more than that

The Socialite
i will indeed cherrish these times and thank u

me on bet lol - thanks hon

i could not have said it better

Demon Hunter
yep - the truth

i could tell from your post sister

thank u hon

thanks home slice

LOL i read how u feel about your kids on your blog and u write about them just as much as i do.

don t cry hon, all out of love, and do come back

Big Cheekz
thanks hon

sista gp
red and blue turtleneck sweater with a scarf lol

Sheliza i hope she does mom i really do. thanks

thanks where u been, bsides your pops taught u about money so he coool with me

i think a lot do

Ms. Jones
i know u anmd your dad kick it like that

Undeniably...Deep aka Tina-B
oh lord dont have hubby mad at me lol and thank u sister

next time u up at shop dont spoil her like last time woman lol

Keisha "Kitten" Isaacs
Thanks u hon


yea, u better not u tooooooo young


im glad they didnt sell ice cream or she would have had that too - u know what im saying

blah blah blah
thank u sister

Waiting for Zufan! said...

You've got some great kids, huh? Little girl is so cute. You know what? Nothing really matters except the kids. Really. When I get all caught up in my own worries I get all stressed out, but one great cure is to just take 10 minutes and curl up with a kid and read a silly book together. Then the nasty old world doesn't look quite so bad anymore.

ODARA said...

nothing more beautiful than a black father teaching & embracing his children with unconditional love!!!

Dope Fiend said...

"I mean love your kids, I don’t care if they momma crazy or you crazy."

this made me laugh so hard! lol

I dont understand how peple can' nurture their kids, its like...i dont even know, I'm onna have to think on it, but really though, kids are amazing.

Your daughter is SO BEAUTIFUL! cutest little girl!

iCandy21 said...

omg your daughter is so beautiful! all the things you were saying about her remind me of how I used to be w/my father growing up. To this day my mom brings up this story from when I was like 4 lol...she asked me if her and my father were to ever seperate who I would go w/and I said daddy lol. of course as I got older I decided if that were to occur that I'd go with whichever one wasn't the cause of the seperation, or I'd stay w/a relative so I didn't have to choose lol, but I was DEF a daddy's girl. this post has inspired my blog for today...thank about to write it as soon as i get some tea!

Poetry said...

I'm a daddy's girl. I love that man in ways that become new to me everyday. I see his flaws and it makes ME want to be a better woman. I wish every little girl was blessed with a daddy like mine.

Anonymous said...

This is from Mrs. Snoop, over on - you need to ask him to send you a picture of his oldest daughter and her 1 year old girl. Daughter and grand-daughter are GORGEOUS and need a daddy in the house. Wanna move to KC?? LOL.

Torrance Stephens - All-Mi-T said...

Waiting for Zufan!
i could not have said it better and u live the same i know

a daily thing for me or at least i try

Dope Fiend
yes children are and thank u hon.

thank u hon, im flattered i inspired u i hope u like what u read here and come back folk

Blogger Poetry
that is so sweet. all we can do is try babe

would they have me? tell her to email me but dont forget im not attractive

Brandi Bates said...

Hey Torrance...who would you recommend self publishiing with? Also, what was your experience like with your publishers?

Mz.Bria2U said...

she's gettin' so big, jones! lol

Gloria Nichole Pécot said...

Cette une belle poém. Je t'adore

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