Thursday, May 08, 2008

riddle me this #3

What would make a person smother or put an object such as a pillow or PLASTIC Bag over the head of an infant, their own child? That is what ex Minnesota Viking player Darrion Scott did. The mother of the child walked in on him a “cleaning bag over the kicking and crying” 2-year-old boy’s head. What would you do if you caught the other parent of your child doing the same?

Why is or what is that makes one thinks than women appear to prefer thugs over brains or scholars for lack of a better word? And would you want your daughter to date a thug? Why or why not?

What is your definition of selfish and what is a selfish person?


Food for Sunday’s post. Ladies, how do you show your man you love him and how do you show you don’t?

should i do an ask me anything post?

66 comments:

Keli said...

It’s not that I love a thug…but who wants a square. Intellect is sexy, but I also like a man with a street style and sensibility.
I will say this…my father had some thug tendencies back in the day…and I have to admit…I was engaged to a dude that’s just like my daddy…the only thing is, he was not get his good woman in the end. My mother never made a fuss about our relationship…said that’s what my granny did about my father, and it only drew them closer together…she was right…I went to college and realized there was more for me than what the dope dealing ex-quarterback could give me…now, once I got to college I fell in love with mini pops #2…he’s not a bad guy, he’s just a product of the hood.

A selfish person is one who acts in the benefit of self…not able to put the thoughts, needs, wants, or others before their own.

I show my man I love him by being there for him…supporting him…giving him props when he’s done good, but also giving constructive criticism when he does something out of line…I show him I love him by doing the little things.

What else you need to know? Good for now?

Torrance Stephens bka All-Mi-T said...

keli
do u fry pork chops, what i am cooking now, and me no thug folk, no tendancies

and should i do an ask me anything post

Tera said...

I never set out to date thugs, it just sort of happened that way. My family was always disappointed because they knew I was a smart sista who had a bright future ahead of me. I love my 2 boys dearly but realize years later that I could have made better choices in their fathers---I let the good sex and thug love win me over...Using intellect over emotion was hard for me.

I'd like to say I have learned my lesson. I am educated, passionate, supportive, HONEST, and trustworthy. I can compliment my man where he is strong and supplement him where his is weak. I am a LOVER. I can be spontaneous, fun, and I have a sense of humor.

He might want some collard greens, hot water cornbread, chops and homemade gravy on Sunday, burgers on the grill and baked beans on Monday...we might go out on Tuesday, but I can whip up some stuffed shells and garlic bread on Wednesday. Don't let Thursday roll around for some good fried chicken, fried corn, smashed potatoes and biscuits...or Friday we mellow out and order a pizza and have a nice glass of wine. Saturday, he might just want to wine and dine...or we can do a little all day bump & grind.

Anyways...whew! I got carried away!!! Let me know if you need additional information my friend :)

Nina said...

I qwould kill that mofo, if I woke up to him killing my child. There's no denying it. My natural instincts would take over. I would see red and kill that mofo.

I'm getting heated already.

I don't do thugs. I did when I was younger. They seemed like they could protect you more at the time, but I quickly realized that they do other things. My most abusive relationships were with thugs. I was physically abused by one and the other had a lot of violence around. Once, we were out together and some guy looked at me. He threw the guy against the wall and choked him.

Not good.

I show my man I love him by doing all I can for him. I've come home dog dead tired and cooked for my partner, given excellent sex, and stuff.

I show him I don't by being mean and bitchy.

Seven said...

That is terrible. I know I definitely would be going upside dude's head, snatch the baby, and run far far away as I'm calling the police.

Don't date thugs. I don't find it attractive at all. My daughter would definitely get a good talking to like my father did with me.

On the showing love questions....I'll get back at you when I can get someone in my grasp long enough to love.

Torrance Stephens bka All-Mi-T said...

all yawl
thug and street smart aint the same thug is a criminal. folk consider jones here street smart

and i can fight, dont need no crew to do mine, do mine by my lonely, but got folk

also, i fk better than avg just the facts, it aint relate either my job is to mesage my partners back from inside her body, can even talk a nut out a woman but i aint no thug

nina
he need his azz whupped. bitch jones, and any woman too - dang



seven
ok thanks



and would u want daughter to date such

Venus said...

I would mos def kick his azz... no need to be big to get a biggy...
btw. cool blog. 1 luv

Tin Ma'am said...

I would dump the son of a bitch and get a restraining order. If he ever came near my child again, I would shoot him, center mass. PERIOD.
And yes, I would shoot first and ask questions later. No one gets the privilege of hurting me, or my child. No exceptions. No excuses.

sista gp said...

Why smother? EVIL

Caught? They thought Michelle Obama was angry and militant? Watch a woman take down a man who is 50% larger than her. One of us would be up on charges of manslaughter and 'he' would be in a grave.

Prefer thugs? lack of confidence. expection of thug's notarity will reflect upon oneself.

Date? I would not want my 'son' to date a thug either. A relationship should improve your life not run it in the ground.

Selfish? devotion to oneself

Love? whatever I can for my family: work, play, shop, cook, take care of business.

Don't Love? be selfish

Ask you anything post? Most definitely. How many questions can each person ask? I will start working on my list now. LOL

Aunt Jackie said...

Ya'll would have to write me letters and work on the behalf of my legal aid and then help me fly the coop like Assata if i walked in on someone trying to strangle my baby...and you can take that to the bank.

i'd be blogging from jail.

I don't do thugs. growing up relatively sheltered i thought that thugs were something fun 'cuz they were different but then i grew to realize that folks spend their whole life trying to get out of the ghetto and they don't respect nor appreciate people who are trying to get in. so no thug love for me. plus i'm kinda prissy and don't like visiting jails or going to funerals...

how do i show my man i love him? same way as i was taught, f*ck and feed him. don't disrespect him in public, keep our shit private, work out our thing behind closed doors so we show a solid front when we leave the house, support him, listen to him, let him be a man and don't try to dominate or change him.

Shanea said...

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Thanks again!!

Tia's Real Talk said...

I dont want a thug. I think it's because thugs have the appearance of a strong protector. Women want to feel that their man will "whoop azz" if anyone touches her. That kind of strenght and protection is appealing but it does not have to come from a thug. Do we really know the definition of a thug? Webster says its a murderer a hoodlum. No thanks..I'll pass. That thug is the same thug that will go upside a chicks head in a minute. A thug is no gentlemen...lol.

A selfish person considers themselves only. Even when doing things for others it's really all about what will be done for them in return.

How do I love my man? By giving him all that he needs and some of what he wants. Think of him whenever I make a decision. Making sure he feels like a man at all times and never feels he is competing with me on who wears rhe pants. Reminding him often of how he makes me feel and how I appreciate him. Sometimes its in an email, text, picture or other married folk thangs. Knowing that men to need to vent and need a ear to just listen. Supporting all ideas even if I don't agree, and knowing the difference between the two And most of all making sure he wants to come home, and that home is a place he runs to and not from.

Emeritus said...

What would you do if you caught the other parent of your child doing the same?
-Either scream or calmly ask what the f*** he thought he was doing. Then rescue my child, drive to a safe place and call the police.

Why is or what is that makes one thinks than women appear to prefer thugs over brains or scholars for lack of a better word?
-I have NO IDEA. I refuse to date thugs or ppl who dress like thugs. I also refuse to date ppl who wear clothes larger than they are or sag their pants. I suppose the only way thugs appeal to women is because they give off an air of strength or hyper-masculinity. I really don't know.

Me? I'm way into the air of power. That's why I'm so attracted to men in suits. Like crazy attracted to men in suits. I flirt with all my male bosses. It's ridiculous...


And would you want your daughter to date a thug? Why or why not?
-HELL NO. the end. I think the reasons are obvious. I mean really? Out of all the labels available in society, the one that appeals the most to you is thug?

What is your definition of selfish and what is a selfish person?
- I suppose being selfish is withholding from your fellow man without any real reason to. A selfish person to me is someone who gets mad when you snag a french fry off their plate; they weren't starving AND you also happen to be their friend. What gives? Selfish in small things can often mean selfish in big things.

Food for Sunday’s post. Ladies, how do you show your man you love him and how do you show you don’t?
-I'm not going to lie. I'm not very outwardly emotional or highly romantic. Well I like romance, I just don't do mushy. So he probably won't hear 'I love you' a lot. I'm more of a doer. I'm all about taking care of him, paying attention and remembering stuff he thinks I've forgotten, drawing a bath and making food cuz I know he had a stressful day at work, randomly buying him something he didn't even know I knew he wanted, that type of stuff.

-When I want to show I don't love them, I stop communicating, put up a wall or act like an ice princess.

should i do an ask me anything post?
-YES PLEASE!
[to be honest I don't have anything I want to ask. I just want to see what ppl ask and how you'll answer. :-) ]

Blah Blah Blah said...

I'd probably black out...at least that's my defense strategy for the murder charge I'd be facing after catching him trying to kill my child.

I'd prefer brains over braun any day of the week.
However, I think women want someone that has a little bit of arrogance/confidence and mistake thugs for being that, rather than the shiftless/marginal ppl they are.

I am the definition of selfish on occassion. Sad but true. Selfish...if it's not about me, or money...or me making money then I'm not interested. That was my thinking back in the day...and no...not yesterDAY. lol

I do a million and one little things...and he can list them...right on down to the way I massage his shoulders without thinking about it, to letting him watch his bball while cooking and running in during half-time to suck his dick before the game comes back on, to remembering he has shirts in the cleaners and picking them up, to reading out loud to him from the Sunday paper as he cooks breakfast, to making sure I keep Italian icees in my freezer for his scooby snack after sex, to making sure I buy his favorite sheets in every color so he feels like he's floating when he sleeps, to making sure I've watched my ESPN to make sure our conversation flows...then letting him explain something to me even though I already know it...so it makes him feel like he has taught me something, to telling him I have no problem being the thunder to his lightening, and again...the list goes on.

The way I don't show I love him? Refer back to the selfish question...lol No longer about him and we...but about me, myself and I.

...I think you want to do a post about where everyone ask you questions...

Lena said...

That is just horrific to hear. If I was in a position where I found my child's father or anybody for that matter trying to kill my child...I will kill them. I think their is this image that women prefer thugs over scholars because you see more of that or at least your drawn to see more in the media which reflects back into reality. You can date a scholar that looks like a thug but automatically you assume he's a thug. My daddy and I have issues about that all the time he calls it the "homeboy look" but when I point out he's in college and this and that he feels stupid for assuming and goes "oh".

Selfish...is when you're looking out only for yourself. A selfish person is a person who is looking out only for themselves with no regards to to others and doesn't care about the consequences of their actions. I act selfish because I look out for myself and do what is best for me but I am not a selfish person because even tough I look out for myself I still care about the people around me and how what I do affects them. I don't know I may not be explaining it well.

Veronica Wright (Hunnie) said...

WTF?!?!?! Why was he doing that?!? I need the full story!

If I caught him doing that I'd probably try to kill him.

I don't prefer a thug but I think for some, it's the whole rough/bad boy thing. And yes, I'd be upset if my daugher dated a thug. I can see a young man being rough aroudn the edges a little but I don't want her dating anyone that must play/"work" in the streets all day and night. I'd like her to have someone that actually has some goals and is striving to acheive them.

A seflish person is someone who looks to satisfy themself above all overs and without regard to anyone else's feelings.

I would show a man that I love him by caring for him and doing the things that I know would please him. Being there just to be an ear if needed, rub his back, hot cooked food, give him good GOOOOOOOD lovin..lol, be the encourager and supporter of his goals/dreams/aspirations. Take the bad with the good, etc.
Be....His....Help....Mate. Period.

Kieya said...

And I believe the same question can be posed to men: Why is it that they seem to prefer the "bad girls" vs the "good girl"? lol its an age old debate.

but i agree with Keli - I don't want a thug. Just a good man with "thug tendencies" lol.

selfish - not caring about anyone or anything else but themselves & promoting their own agenda...but I think that's pretty hard to do completely, at one point even the most selfish person cares about something



& yes you should. have a good weekend too :-)

Kieya said...

yea and that fool is crazy! (ftball player)

Lovebabz said...

As the mother of 4 adopted children who were abused and abandoned it is very hard for me to wrap my brain around how a parent could harm their child. Intellectually we know that mental illness is the root cause for a great deal of abuse against children, but spiritually it is a very hard thing to understand or accept. What would I do...that would remain between me and God.

NO! I would not like any of my children sons and daughters to date a thug. A thug has no regard for humanity. I want for them--my children to love and be loved by someone who enhances the best part of who they are. I have never been attracted to thugs, nor do I have the patience for that sort of foolishness. I prefer self-actualized grown men who care about family, community and the world. Who fully knows who he is and is comfortable with that. Is not so swayed by popular opinion and goes and thinks his own way.

A Selfish person has no regard for your needs, desires, wishes or spirit. They come first and foremost and everything and everyone else comes in at a distant second.

I have shown my man that I loved him, by being a faithful and abiding wife. I have been generous in my spirit. I have greeted him with a smile and kind words. I have lovingly prepared meals and happily created a romantic space in which to express that love. There was no room for not showing love on my part. I happily choose to love the way that I do.

Happy Mother's Day to you...A fine and wonderful Father!

Ms. Ki said...

NO THUGS ALLOWED!!!!!!!!!!

I don't know if it's the young mentality that some possess now a days or even that whole belief of I need a man to protect and take care of me. There's a difference between a protector and a thug or goon. Whatever you want to call it. A man that possesses intellect is sexy as hell to me. A man that can stand up for a cause in a quiet yet outspoken way is simply beautiful. I don't want a man that's crying for mommy but I don't want someone who is purposely confrontational and downright criminal. I would not want that for my daughter and I certainly would not want my son to turn out the same way.

To me the definition of selfish is someone who is so caught up in self needs, desires, etc. that they are unable to see the needs of those around them. Everything they do is for self satisfaction.

In showing a man that I love him. I pay attention to the little things. Cook his favorite food. Study up on the stats of his favorite team and athletes. Dedicate some time to the activities that he may enjoy that often fall on the backburner to the things I want to do. When I don't, I try to talk about it instead of showing it, but sometimes we can't control our actions. I may become visibly annoyed with things he says and does. I quit answering phone calls and start cancelling dates and quality time.

Yes, you should do an ask me anything post.

Divine Perception said...

My brain can't even fathom someone trying to kill my child. I believe I may black out, and when I come to I might be cleaning evidence. If you can't handle having a child then by all means leave or tell me to get it but don't try to harm my baby.

I think a selfish person is one that looks out for self with disregard for others.

I've been with four people in my life and only one could be considered a thug by looking at him. He is well spoken, and itellectual but if things go down he can handle himself. I am not attracted to the danger factor but how I am treated by the person.

My man usually wants for nothing. I am not a mind reader so as long as he tells me what he wants/needs I act accordingly. There is a fine line, I will do what he asks most times as long as he is not taking me for granted. He also has to be willing to go out of his way for me as well. If I have issue with him I usually get real quiet. I don't like arguments or making a scene so its just easier not to talk as much. If he is sleepy I may make a lot more noise then necessary now and again...lol

Exquisitely Black said...

Answers in order:

I'm not a mom, but my aunt instincts would kick into high gear. I'd probably find something with which to knock out the offender (whatever is handy, lamp, club, chair, etc.) and then call the police - I would want to see this idiot suffer in prison.

I've always been amazed at women who want to invite drama into their lives. IMHO, it speaks to some lack - some desire for excitement that cannot be filled or satieted.

Selfish - I think we are all selfish to an extent and must be - you must love and value yourself above all others - not to do so would be cheating those others in your life with whom you hope to share a whole you. With that said, a selfish person doesn't understand that love for one's self should be a precursor to love for others, not the end goal.

Love means showing love/support when needed, honesty when needed and quiet when needed and knowing when to apply each of the above.

Ask you anything post - hmm, yes, at your own risk :-)

The Jaded NYer said...

if I caught my ex tryna kill my babies? well, I'd take that as a sign that he was suicidal... he knows what kind of crazy I am...

thugs? um, no thank you; I'm not trying to die for no d*ck, cause you know it's always the innocent by-stander who gets shot and not the thug the bullet was meant for; and hopefully my girls will be smart enough to avoid them, too.

with regards to your other questions, especially the one about showing a man love, I refuse to answer on the grounds that it may incriminate me and ruin my rep as a badass playa LOL

Brownsoul said...

I don't have any children yet, but knowing myself, if found my husband doing something crazy like that I would probably shoot him. NOT promoting that. Just saying, it would be the first thing to come to mind.

Confession time.

I used to be one of those girls, who gets hot over a brother with tatoos for days and no high school diploma, but what I can I say? I grew the hell up. I married a brother who is the exact opposite of that. Would I want my daughter to date a thug? No. Why? What parent does?

I'm not sure how I define selfish because everytime my husband does do or give me what I want, I call him selfish. And sometime his really is, but I know for sure that I am as well. At the same time, there are things in my life for which I feel fully justified in being a bit self serving.

Now when it comes to showing love, well, there are obvious ways. But I don't consider that showing love as much as showing that I too am horny.

I don't love cooking. Now, growing up, I cooked quite often. It was a requirement in my house, but after going off to college and then moving to the A and becoming "sexy and single in the city" it was take out and microwave dinners every night. My husband loves homecooked meals and when I'm feeling especially appreciative to have in my life and I want to show him that, I make an incredible meal for him complete with an after dessert foot rub.

Brittany said...

OMG!!! I didn't hear that story. I would go crazy and prob try to hurt the guy. That just makes no sense what so ever. So sad.

Vdizzle said...

Forget thug. He was trying to smother a child. She clearly prefers 'em straight EVIL!!

Tha BossMack TopSoil said...

Check this out peoples, that dude right there has psychological issues, not thug issues. I fux with alot of bitches, and quite a few of them have ended up with NFL dudes or NBA dudes, and Nigga be having psyhologial issues. One statrting defensive lineman for Denver is on Ritalin, I know this.

Now I'm not gonna say I'm a thug, But I am a street dude, and all of my peoples is mostly street dudes and they don't fuck with kids. If someone from my Hood fucks with a kid, thats a deadman right there, period, dude would have to pray tha police got him first. Tha Hood politicks where I'm from is no joke when it comes to that type a shit.

Miss Mika said...

YES! You should to 'an ask me anything' post! I have a few burning questions for ya...

I would be in prison awaiting the death penalty if ANYONE were to do that to my child. I know I would get death because that person’s murder would be the most horrific thing this generation has ever seen.

Why is or what is that makes one thinks than women appear to prefer thugs over brains or scholars for lack of a better word? And would you want your daughter to date a thug? Why or why not? I can’t speak on this one because I’ve always found intelligent men more attractive than a thug. Maybe it’s the bad boy in them that women find appealing. That sense of spontaneity. That desire to change a man and make him “better”.

TheophaniaPaige said...

I would FLIP OUT. Whatever that entails...She could have been at the store and he could have killed the baby, fck outa here, I would have flipped out!

Spontaneity maybe...There's nothing like waiting in a broke down car, smoking a blunt and listening to Jeezy on his rattling system while him and his homeboy robs someone at the trap house, NOT! lol after a certain age I don't know what the appeal is but to each his own. I'd freak a nerd quicker than a self proclaimed thug, lol....


No, I wouldn't want my daughter (if I had kids) to date one, honestly you don't know what kind of habits she may pick up or situations she might wind up in, sh*t she might become a lil thuggette herself...nor would I want my son to be one or hang out with them, same reasons as above...

When everything you say, do (or don't do) mirrors self.


Feed him his favorite foods, do his hair, wash him, tell him how much he means to me and why I'm with him, etc. Nothing too crazy like a billion dollar ring (or tattoo of his name...unless we've been married 50+ yrs, lol) because then it looks like I'm a "fan" of him and not his significant other. Infatuation is a sneaky mf, sometimes it's so hard to tell between the two...

How I let him know I don't love him, lol, depends on the situation...but basically I tell him them that I don't; we want different things, deuces! (mean eh? but honest...) But I rarely let it get to that point, I feel a person knows within a short amount of time whether the other has the potential to be fully appreciated within a relationship. If we're trying to make something happen and I don't feel like I could one day love him, I'm wasting my time and I don't want to waste his so lets just call this a friendship...JMO :)

You should only do an "ask me anything" post if you're ready for any type of question, I uh, could think of a few...

IVENTBYBLOGGING said...

that Viking had one too many blows (to the head and up the nose!) there would be no ?? what I would do had I walked in on that scene. slice and dice like Ginsu. Fa sho.' I couldn't imagine my kids' father going out like that.


Also to answer your ?? re: Thug.
I loved a thug (in my youth) until I realized, I couldn't take him being in/out jail-and I was raising my daughter alone. kicked him to the curb when my baby was 3 mos. He spent 8 yrs locked up after the break up.

I show my boo i love him by edifying-building him up. Telling him if he believe it he can achieve it, that I see greatness in him. I give him hand/arm & foot massages and watch him go to sleep. I tell him I love him everyday (even when I'd rather chew nails)...and I assure him with my words, that I'm not going anywhere. I encourage him in God...and tell him he will be the prophet, priest and king of our household when God brings us together as hubby/wife.

I also tell him I'm honored that God gave me him...an awesome gift that I will always treasure.

I've been selfish and it's left me lonely. It is better to give (of myself) than to receive..it is much more fulfilling.
bria :)

Torrance Stephens bka All-Mi-T said...

venus
thanks hon do come back

tin maam
I know u would lol

Sistagp
I think the misnomer is that they can protect, most thugs don’t take of children or a family

And I agree selfish folk may say they love u but cant love if they cant give

Aunt Jackie
Ill get u out and im down with the fck n feed could use both right now

Shanea
Thank u an do come back as well, I can be boring most time though

Tia
I don’t think no one does
1. A cutthroat or ruffian; a hoodlum.
2. and u can beat a person down wo being a thug
3. do they even do in return?

Emeritus
Just rescue while screaming is all I ask
Would u flirt w me lol
And what r your questions

Blah
Don’t black out
Its just a query, I stll got no comment for fear of incrimination and 5th amend after that lol

Lena
A shame media feeds women like that what happen to parents and I agree w selfish

Hunnie
Great answer especially re man

Kieya
Yep he is and good man is best ans, what is one

Lovebabz
Love the thoughts and thanks, but my kids have loving mothers

Ms ki
Good deal and especially w selfish

Divine perception
I cant figure out it either

Eblack
Invitation for drama, great title for a post
Love the selfish comment to
At my own risk, what would u ask

Jaded nyer
Lol u Dominican too, u would be HOT HOT HOT
U a bad azz playa, how many men u pimpin folk

Brownsoul
Like the other women who chimed in u sound like a great woman to me

Brittany
Calm down, I know u would flip, u ready for grad school

Vdizzle
Yep str8 evil is the only person that would do such

Bossmack
U like me no thug – street smart

Miss mika
How u been
What burning questions do u got for me, book club related I hope lol

TheophaniaPaige
That’s a solid response

The Jaded NYer said...

U a bad azz playa, how many men u pimpin folk

again, your honor, I plead the fif

LOL

-eve- said...

Ok... I always did wanna be a 'gangsta girl'; a thug's girl :-)
Guess the thing is that most guys nowadays are busy with their stuff (esp if you get those who are full of plans; they have their own plans, and none of those involve you, or if they do, it's only as an afterthought) - whereas with a thug, supposedly, he NEEDS you to go with him (even if just to show off), and he's proud of you, plus he'll pick a fight with anyone who looks at you, so you know he takes care of you like you something special..

Of course, the problem with a thug is that he might not be very responsible, plus it might not be a very 'safe' life...

As for the post... well, I'd show him I loved him by hugging him, waiting up til late for him to get home, smiling at him, making stuff for him ..... and vice versa; if we had a fight that couldn't be settled, I'd try not to speak to him, and if I had to speak, would be formal, and not use any tender words... would just be polite, and would try not to look at him, and try to be busy and do other stuff... and if he asked what the matter was, I'd say 'nothing' and not want to talk about it...

Looking forward to that post of yours! :-)

Ticia said...

Man, this is something - the devil is busy!

shelia said...

My natural instinct would be to do whatever is in my power to get him off my child--and getting my child out of harms way.

My first response was I don't date thugs--which I don't; however I have dated "ex-thugs" but they are doing something with their lives now.

Someone being selfish puts their needs first at the expense of hurting others. We are to take care of ourselves in order to be able to help others, but you don't have to be selfish to do it. Unfortunately, sometimes folks get it confused and give their ALL to everybody and are left emotionally depleted and have nothing to offer anyone.

My actions show that I love my man and I verbally tell him if I don't.

Sure--do an ask me anything post...I like those...its fun :)

yummy411 said...

i would rescue my child and call the police.. point blank. no vikings love over here. damn what a shame!

showing my man that i love him? the little things, the sacrifice, putting my wants and needs aside to address his, making time for him in between the kids...love notes, phone calls, bringing home his favorite goodies, .......................... i can't wait to hear about this post!

no love? no calls, no interest, no affection, nothing...

Divine Blackness said...

I really don't even know what to say about this one. And you know what? That ain't even about him bein' a thug. I'm sure a brotha in a suit and tie could (unfortunately) do the same way. Ignorance and crazy come in all forms.

Selfish? What is selfish? Not giving a shit about anyone but yourself. Only you matter. You do what you want, say what you want and make sure they you are content. And if you aren't....others will feel the wrath. I have this theory that a great deal of people in the world are selfish individuals. Oh sure we over our Mommas and friends but at the end of the day WE just want to be happy. Tell hell with the rest of the world.

But that's just my POV.

How to show a man you love him?
Stand by him and let me know how much you love and appreciate him.

How to show a man you don't love him.
Cut him off and move on with your life.

....I'm jus sayin'.

Exquisitely Black said...

In their heart of hearts, everyone is afraid of something. I would ask...what are you afraid of.

VAR said...

Yo, I dont have no answers for them questions but I just gotta say, I'm over here groovin to that track "Food Dont Grow At Kroger." LOL... and laughing at that Rodney King track too! lol.. If I can ever get myself out there, you gotta let yo folk here strum on a track or two..

JayBee said...

i will never understand why some of these women want the thugs. what's sexy about not knowing if somebody's gonna kick your door in and take ya'll to jail? why not have a calm life complete with
401k plans and benefits? i can't imagine what i'd do if i walked in on my mate or anyone for that matter with a plastic bag over my child kicking them. in case you do the ask me anything post i'll submit my questions now.

1. what's the best book you've read?
2. what do you consider your greatest achievement?
3. how long did it take you to earn your ph.d.?

Anonymous said...

What would you do if you caught the other parent of your child doing the same?- First I would find something to beat them over the head with and call the police and ambulance to help my baby then I would file a restraining order and gain full custody of my child.

Why is or what is that makes one thinks than women appear to prefer thugs over brains or scholars for lack of a better word? And would you want your daughter to date a thug? Why or why not?- I think the appeal goes to the idea of a man being able to protect you..there is a certain sexiness about men who are bad boys....they are also guaranteed to put it down in the bedroom....not to say that I dont appreciate a man with intelligence...I like both...and If I had a daughter and she was dating someone who was thug I would hope that it was just a phase and she was just having fun

What is your definition of selfish and what is a selfish person?
My definition of selfish is putting self interests above all other things a selfishperson is someone who self absorbed and only does things for their benefit and no one else's ....

Food for Sunday’s post. Ladies, how do you show your man you love him and how do you show you don’t?

I show my man I love him by supporting him, listening to him and doing little things for him that he likes..like cooking little gifts and things

should i do an ask me anything post?- Yes you definetly should.

IntrospectiveGoddess

Anonymous said...

What would you do if you caught the other parent of your child doing the same?- First I would find something to beat them over the head with and call the police and ambulance to help my baby then I would file a restraining order and gain full custody of my child.

Why is or what is that makes one thinks than women appear to prefer thugs over brains or scholars for lack of a better word? And would you want your daughter to date a thug? Why or why not?- I think the appeal goes to the idea of a man being able to protect you..there is a certain sexiness about men who are bad boys....they are also guaranteed to put it down in the bedroom....not to say that I dont appreciate a man with intelligence...I like both...and If I had a daughter and she was dating someone who was thug I would hope that it was just a phase and she was just having fun

What is your definition of selfish and what is a selfish person?
My definition of selfish is putting self interests above all other things a selfishperson is someone who self absorbed and only does things for their benefit and no one else's ....

Food for Sunday’s post. Ladies, how do you show your man you love him and how do you show you don’t?

I show my man I love him by supporting him, listening to him and doing little things for him that he likes..like cooking little gifts and things

should i do an ask me anything post?- Yes you definetly should.

IntrospectiveGoddess

professor said...

see I would kill that mofo...WHAT...try to hurt mine...see that's why I love thugs...they handle the biznez when I need them too...however most are fakes, and I end up handling shit cause they punked out...I need a man that I don't have to protect...nothing worse than standing up to folks while your "man" is cowering behind you...but that life and those folk get tired...the constant game, profiling...ugh...I need conversation, the kind that you look up and the sun is coming up...convo so good you forgot to fuck....
"...how do i show my man i love him? same way as i was taught, f*ck and feed him...THREE HOT AND A COT... don't disrespect him in public, keep our shit private, work out our thing behind closed doors so we show a solid front when we leave the house, support him, listen to him, let him be a man and don't try to dominate or change him..." YES SISTER PREACH ON...COULDN'T HAVE SAID IT BETTER MYSELF...

Sincere said...

What up folk! Drugs had to have been involved to do something as f**ked up as this! I always thought that same question.. Why do women prefer thugs? they may say they don't but they do. I think being selfish is when your actions only benefit you and you make no attempt to help anyone else. but sometimes you need to be a little selfish, ya know?
Peace

12kyle said...

this dude is a joke. who would want to harm an innocent child?

the joy said...

lets see here.... your little football player would be dead. thug or no, there's no logic behind trying to kill an innocent child.

if i love my man (which i do) ill do whatever it takes to show him that. im very affectionate that way. if i dont- im out. i dont waste time.

THE PRINCESS "CC" said...

Hypothetically, If my son's father did anything like that, you'd read about him, he'd be D*E*A*D. Plain and simple.

I love thugs (in appearance) but not intellectually, little boys bore me, I need a man that's a leader and thugs are generally cowards and/or followers other wise they'd just be REAL businessmen.

I am a selfish person, that's someone that love to satify themselves, I generally accomplish that with the man I'm my life, I'm selfish because I want him all to myself.

I treat my man LIKE A KING, LITERALLY, what ever he wants, intimacy, emotionally, completely spoiled.

If I don't love a man anymore, it's simple, I IGNORE THEM, completely, they go cold turkey, men hate that.

Yes do an ask me anything post, that will be awesome.

Much love to ya, keep up the excellent work!

Torrance Stephens bka All-Mi-T said...

The Jaded NYer
Mac momma , nother name for pimp


eve
never kicked it with a thug, but it seems that it is the antithesis of responsible or safe and thank u, I will post pone it til Monday if u can wait, wrote one a second ago. And do return and thanks for the visit from Malayasia - is it?


Ticia
Devil wears prada and football uniforms

shelia
They don’t sound like thugs, just street smart again. Unless u mean form criminals then yes ex thugs

and why are they fun?


yummy 411
the little things, the sacrifice, putting my wants and needs aside to address his, making time for him in between the kids...love notes, phone calls, bringing home his favorite goodies thought I was wrong for thinking I deserved that, and like I said Monday, im gonna call it I love u and is that yummy for my information?

Divine Blackness said...
I agree ignorance and evil will never be sexy nor attractive for any gender

Ignorance and crazy come in all forms.

Not giving a shit about anyone but yourself. Only you matter. You do what you want, say what you want and make sure they you are content. And if you aren't....others will feel the wrath. I have experienced that.

Exquisitely Black
I would ask...what are you afraid of. not being able to feed or privide for my children

VAR
U good folk, when u coming down, and im putting 10 more up 23morrow, 10 each week lol


JayBee They will spend they money on his bail and be made when he beat they ass and fk another woman in they house - yep he has no house LOL
1. what's the best book you've read?
Civilization or Barbarism - Chekih Anta Diop and Candide by Voltaire. Hard to say best, I can give u a top 500. Cause Hand Book of Guerilia Warefare is tight too

2. what do you consider your greatest achievement?
I haven’t achieved anything yet

3. how long did it take you to earn your ph.d.?
Finished all my work at 27 but hatters made me wait and graduated at 28


IntrospectiveGoddess
dang what I would do for a home cooked meal that I aint cook

professor
I know u and you folks, so I know how yawl get down, and they don’t teach or preach , f*ck and feed him...THREE HOT AND A COT... don't disrespect him in public, keep our shit private, work out our thing behind closed doors so we show a solid front when we leave the house, support him, listen to him, let him be a man and don't try to dominate or change him.. any more.

Sincere
How ya living folk, and yea, he was on some foul shit, only pure evil would put anything over their childs or any child's head and I bet he laughed - thats what the siko’s do


12kyle
As a father like you I couldnt evben imagine such folk

Torrance Stephens bka All-Mi-T said...

the joy
So far he would have been dead 46 times via the comments on this blog and your man is lucky to have u sop keep that relationship tight.. Never know what one has til it is gone

THE PRINCESS "CC"
I agree on the death of a feculent being.

But the surface is never really important. Looks are a dime a dozen. But I agree followers and cowards

u gotta work on that selfish part but any man would be blessed top have u as his queen as well, professional or not

karrie b. said...

ughhh that sickens me.

-KB

-eve- said...

Yes, Malaysia, TS :-) yup, you've got so much feedback here, best wait another day to collect as much info as possible ;-)

msladydeborah said...

I read this in my hometown newspaper. You know he once played O~State Football.

I believe that Darrion Scott could be placed in the ranks of the third of American parents who do not know anything about child rearing.

If I was that child's mother~saving him from a madman would be the first move I made.

I believe that the right thing was done. It was reported and he was arrested.

How in the world could his mother ever feel that their child would be safe? Especially since it is known that a plastic bag suffocates people to death. That wasn't a discipline. That was a murder attempt in my mind.

I gave birth to three sons who are now fathers of daughters. Right now the girls are too young to date.

However, I suspect that when it is time for them to do so~their father's and mother's will be on the case.

Of course that isn't a guarantee that they won't hook up with a thug~bad boys have magnets in their personalities. They make it difficult to resist their charms...but that's really another comment for another time :-).

I don't think that all women are attracted to thugs. I happen to like brainiacs myself.

Dusty said...

I want a passionate, thinking male in my life. Thugs never appealed to me. A man that can love a child,kitten or puppy would be able to capture my heart.

Yes, you should do an 'ask me anything' post ;)

Emeritus said...

i prolly couldn't help myself so yes, i would flirt with you.

- oh and i don't have any questions. i'm just waitng for ppl to ask theirs so i can see what you say.

sasha said...

if i dont love him, im not with him. so therefor he does know. and if i do love him i treat him as such. there are so many ways to show someone you love them. about the viking...thug has nothing to do with it, love. people who seem perfect, educated, well rounded, murder their own children. im assuming thats what you were talking bout? the topic sort of bounced around. "thug" is a state of mind and frankly social status. its almost the only way for a man to feel superior when he is uneducated and has no career. to act like a "thug" when you are semi-weathy and have a great education, is just flat out ignorant and somewhat can be defined as a self esteem issue. thug=poking your chest out. a real man can be defined by his character not by how "rough and tough he is" the most manly thing i ever whitnessed was when my calm, monotoned, married boss went off on a man for talking about my ass on our job site. to defend a woman, any woman, because she IS a woman. that is sexy, apreciated, well noted, sought after behavior from a man. i dont need a man who can shoot another over some rims. i need a man i know can protect me but otherwise behave like a gentleman.

SpanishHarlemMonaLisa said...

I don't have anybabies but knowing myself the way I do I would probably kill someone who tried to hurt someone I love.

I don't like thugs but as it has been said many times on here "thug tendicies" are attractive. I definitely want a man who will be a provider and protector.

I show my love by giving my al and just when I think I can't give any more, finding more to give. Rubbing his back when he gets home from work, letting him put his head on my lap and rubbing his scalp through his dreads while he drifts off for a nap.

I know there are times when I am selfish but its usually surronding times when I feel insecure about something and need some reassurance...

I like this blog...I'm definitely coming back ;-)

2sweetnsaxy said...

I don't understand anyone who can so easily and so willingly take another life yet alone that of their own child. I don't know what I'd do but I doubt that it would be pretty.

Too many sick people in the world. People need to pray not only for their children but everyone else's as well. They need all the protection they can get, even from their own parents. That's just sad.

What is selfish? When someone thinks everything is about them, that the world revolves around them and never stops to think how what they say or do effects someone else and they don't care.

I've never been interested in a thug. It doesn't appeal to me at all. It's a lifestyle I don't find exciting or smart and its just not compatible to what I need or want.

Nickie said...

What would make a person smother or put an object such as a pillow or PLASTIC Bag over the head of an infant, their own child?
I really think fathers go through "baby blues" too. There are also feelings of neglect, jealousy and helplessness that can make a father snap. Couple that with the crying tantrums,lack of sleep, and the pressure of being a parent and husband and there you go.... insanity. Please do not get my answer to this question wrong. I do not sympathize with "kid killing " and "shaking babies". I am just stating facts. We have all been at that breaking point but had the strength it takes to push through. It takes an mentally/emotionally stable person to get through the highly stressful times. It also takes a good support system, endurance, and communication. Its very obvious that the parents who do this to their children, don't have what it takes to raise kids.

Nickie said...

What would you do if you caught the other parent of your child doing the same?
I love the father of my children VERY much. I really do...but I'd try to kill the MF if he ever laid hands with the intention to kill our babies!!!! I mean seriously....pick up the nearest heavy object and lay him out!!!!! If he survives the beating, i'd press charges of course and start my life over as a single mother with three kids.

Don said...

if i walked in and caught anyone - it could be my momma, with a bag over my child's head...

man, they are going to need a swat team to take me.

RealHustla said...

"Why is or what is that makes one thinks than women appear to prefer thugs over brains or scholars for lack of a better word? "

You say this as if intelligent women have intelligent men banging their doors down. What is banging our doors down is loneliness and self realization. These wait for no man.

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